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2311, 2021

Borderline Mother? How to Start Recovering from Your PTSD

By |November 23rd, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a condition that severely compromises your ability to regulate your emotions. People with BPD may display erratic tendencies. They seem unable to create and maintain relationships. BPD can cause impulsive and often self-harming behaviors. In many cases, BPD seems to occur in people who have a history of childhood trauma. And if you were raised by a borderline mother, than you could be struggling with [...]

1511, 2021

Worried & Clingy? Understanding the Preoccupied Attachment Style

By |November 15th, 2021|Categories: Anxiety|

Ideally, you’d like your attachment style to be secure. However, most attachment styles are insecure in one way or another. If you didn't learn how to get attention when it’s needed early on, the result is insecurity. It usually carries over into adult relationships.

811, 2021

Why People-Pleasing & Narcissistic Echoism Aren’t the Same

By |November 8th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Why do some people seem to be drawn to narcissists? Such a question usually inspires answers related to self-sabotage, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing. Of course, any or all of these factors can play a role. Another recent catchphrase is narcissistic echoism. Generally speaking, this term refers to the role of Echo in the story of Narcissus. In Ovid’s tale, Narcissus rejects Echo. After seeing his own reflection, he falls in [...]

111, 2021

Can A Narcissist Change? What You Need to Know

By |November 1st, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Is someone important in your life a narcissist? If so, you probably wrestle with questions about the future of your relationship. You have begun to recognize a certain level of toxicity that never seems to go away. You wonder if there is hope.  And you wonder "Can a narcissist change ?"  "Is a narcissist even capable of changing? "Many are not. You may be in the position of waiting for [...]

2510, 2021

Intergenerational Trauma: Recognize These Signs & Symptoms

By |October 25th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

It can be a powerful step to stop seeing generational trauma as a “family problem.” However, trauma and PTSD are disorders. That means you should seek out a therapist. Give yourself and your family a chance to explore negative habits and patterns. Break the cycle.

1110, 2021

Meditation And Trauma Recovery- Should It Be Part Of Your Plan?

By |October 11th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Consider integrating meditative approaches into your trauma recovery and discover what it’s like to be deeply aware of what you’re feeling in the moment. Mindful meditation can bring you into a place of positively experiencing the present.

2709, 2021

Don’t Dismiss Internet Addiction: What You Need to Know

By |September 27th, 2021|Categories: Anxiety|

We all have stressors. We all have coping mechanisms. And when you are struggling emotionally, these strategies can become habits. You integrate them into your daily routines. Such habits can morph into an addiction if you begin seeking a “reward” from engaging them.

2009, 2021

Narcissistic Gaslighters Deal in Doubt: 6 Tips to Take Back Your Confidence

By |September 20th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

No one gaslights like a narcissist. For example, they lie, blame and never admit their own flaws. These chronic actions can serve to shatter the confidence of the people in their life. They are left to wonder if, like Paula, they are losing their minds.

1207, 2021

Persecutor, Rescuer, Victim? Unpacking Interaction with The Karpman Triangle

By |July 12th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

How often have you had an interaction turn into trauma or drama? And how often were you unable to figure out that just happened? You may find yourself confused; wondering if you instigated something.

707, 2021

Polyvagal Theory: What It Is & How It Can Help You Feel Safe Again

By |July 7th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

In times of stress or danger, our body is hard-wired to respond. The sympathetic nervous system triggers the fight-or-flight action response. There is another response — courtesy of the parasympathetic nervous system — known as freeze-or-faint

906, 2021

Awareness, Validation & Boundaries: How to Defeat the CPTSD Fawn Response

By |June 9th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Thinking about trauma, reliving it, and avoiding it can be a consuming pastime. To keep ourselves from experiencing such distress, we often go out of our way to escape the internal upheaval, triggers, or perceived danger connected to the past.

2405, 2021

Why It’s So Hard to Be Happy with a Narcissist

By |May 24th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

When you care for someone, however contrary they may be, it can be difficult to let go of the idea that you could possibly find happiness with them. That's why you must gain some clarity and educate yourself about the realities of narcissism before you sacrifice any more time to the relationship.

1005, 2021

Leaving a Narcissistic Lover Behind: Healing & Recovery with Trauma Treatment

By |May 10th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Leaving a romantic relationship behind is often hard enough. When that relationship was plagued with narcissistic abuse, moving on is much harder. You may not long to be with your former partner but the trauma of the relationship can hold you back and wear you down internally. Living a life separate from your abuser may seem impossible. So, with that said, you likely know that simply getting out of the [...]

905, 2021

Signs You Had a Narcissistic Parent & What Trauma Treatment Can Do to Help

By |May 9th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Narcissistic parents can inflict quite a bit of psychological damage on their children. Boundaries are a problem for them. Manipulation is their M.O. Their own needs are the primary needs of the whole family. In a sense, the other family members are like moons revolving around a large planet. If you had a narcissistic mother, or a narcissistic father, read on. So, to meet these parents' needs, children of narcissists [...]

2604, 2021

Ashamed of Your Pain? Overcoming Media Stereotypes About Trauma

By |April 26th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

PTSD and trauma; awareness about them is increasing in our society. However, stereotypes about trauma survivors continue to perpetuate. These, at best, have the effect of causing confusion. At worst, people who have trauma believe these stereotypes to be true. But it doesn’t have to be. I've witnessed that time and time again in my work as a trauma therapist. If you have experienced trauma, or perhaps struggle with post-traumatic [...]

2604, 2021

How Life with a Narcissist Can Contribute to C-PTSD

By |April 26th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

When we think of complex post-traumatic stress disorder, C-PTSD, it’s often in the context of children who were raised with abusive parents. Sometimes that abuse was physical, such as hitting. At other times, it was emotional cruelty, such as telling a child they are not loved or not worthy. But when someone is coping with C-PTSD symptoms, it's because the abuse they endured wasn't a single terrifying event. Instead, it [...]

2004, 2021

Avoidance and Trauma: Coping with the Effects of PTSD/C-PTSD

By |April 20th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

If you’re struggling with the effects of PTSD/C-PTSD, then you most likely have relied on avoidance to get you through. It’s a common emergency coping response for those who have been through trauma. If a person has felt helpless and vulnerable, why wouldn't they seek out the sense of control that avoidance provides? As a short term reaction, it makes sense. After all, why would you want to expose yourself [...]

1304, 2021

How You Can Support Your Loved One’s EMDR Therapy

By |April 13th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Your loved one has decided to participate in eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy (EMDR). That’s great! It represents another step closer to resolving the issues that have plagued them for so long. For instance, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from past traumas, complex PTSD (C-PTSD) are all commonly treated with EMDR.  Many therapist use EMDR for anxiety treatment. Relationship issues and and stress may be addressed too. In fact, [...]

704, 2021

Intimacy Avoidance: Emotional Numbing Makes PTSD Worse

By |April 7th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and Complex PTSD (CPTSD) complicate the personal lives of those who experience it. Some battle constant anxiety and fear. Others struggle with avoidance. They work very hard to ensure that they do not encounter any reminders in the everyday lives of their trauma. However, one issue that does affect suffers of PTSD is emotional numbing. It’s another way that people with trauma have found to cope [...]

204, 2021

At the Mercy of a Narcissist? Don’t Dismiss Signs of Narcissistic Abuse

By |April 2nd, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Do you know the signs of narcissistic abuse?    You know that your partner isn't treating you well. Their ego, arrogance, and, subtle jabs, and angry outbursts are just too much. Are their actions due to simply bad behavior, or something else? It may be that your partner is a narcissist. And you could be stuck in what's referred to as "the narcissistic abuse cycle". Narcissistic behavior, on the whole, [...]

2203, 2021

What Is Learned Helplessness? How Trauma Therapy Helps

By |March 22nd, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

What is learned helplessness? Perhaps you’ve had a goal for years now to stop smoking. It’s something that you’re very conscious of and how the risks of smoking threaten your health. But, no matter which program you try, nothing seems to work. Even if you get down to one cigarette a day, you still are smoking. So, what happens? You give up and throw your hands up in the air [...]

2203, 2021

What Are the 10 ACEs of Trauma & How Can You Begin to Face Them?

By |March 22nd, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

What are the 10 ACEs of Trauma? Well, you know that you experienced some pretty difficult events during your childhood. However, you may have thought that as an adult you had moved past them. But deep down inside you know this isn't true. That's because early life stresses change you on the inside. For instance, perhaps you can’t bear to think about the times when you suffered and no one [...]

1303, 2021

Frontline Worker? Returning to the Office? Managing Stress at Work with EMDR

By |March 13th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

This past year, you may have found that managing stress at work has been no easy feat. The pandemic has been a stressful experience no matter who you are. But if you are a frontline worker, then you have seen the brunt of the pandemic up close. This is true whether you have been working in a healthcare facility or at a grocery store. Also, as many organizations contemplate returning [...]

603, 2021

Subtle Signs of Trauma: Would You Recognize These Lesser-Known Symptoms?

By |March 6th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

When you consider signs of trauma, what do you think of? It’s easy to imagine someone curled up in a ball, paralyzed with fear. But that is more of a stereotype than reality. Yes, the fear response is certainly one trauma symptom and does play a significant role. Yet, there are many signs of trauma that are more subtle and not nearly so obvious. In fact, you can be struggling [...]

2602, 2021

COVID Triggers Past Trauma: How It Is A Chance to Treat Unresolved Pain

By |February 26th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

The coronavirus pandemic has certainly brought up a range of emotions for all of us. However, for some people, COVID actually triggers past trauma. When the pandemic started, there was the fear of an unknown infection and its ill effects. Now, there is also hope for the future and the promise of vaccines. Still, even if you thought that you had settled your past, COVID may have brought up new [...]

2102, 2021

What My Trauma Looks Like: How to Explain Complex PTSD in 7 Everyday Ways

By |February 21st, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

You’ve been diagnosed with complex post-traumatic stress disorder or C-PTSD. Things have been going well in therapy and you’re beginning to understand what it is and how C-PTSD affects you. Now, you’re wondering how to explain complex PTSD to others, especially your friends and family. This isn’t just to satisfy their curiosity.  Having people who care about your wellbeing is important as you work towards recovering from C-PTSD. Yet, it's [...]

1502, 2021

EMDR Therapy Online: What Virtual Treatment Offers

By |February 15th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

EMDR therapy online? What would that be like? Consider this; so much of our lives have now moved to online spaces. For many of us, this includes work, but also entertainment and even exercise (anyone up for a Zoom workout class?). Naturally, it makes sense that therapists have transitioned to virtual treatment methods for their clients as well. Standard “talk therapy” sessions are common. But what if you were receiving treatment [...]

702, 2021

The Difference Between PTSD and CPTSD: How to Know What You’re Dealing With

By |February 7th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

Since our lives have been altered by COVID, the media and perhaps your own social circle have held more discussions about trauma. Terms like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) are being bandied around. What is the difference between PTSD and CPTSD? What are we really talking about? And how can we tell which form of post-traumatic distress you're experiencing? Let's explore trauma and the related [...]

2601, 2021

Neurofeedback and ADHD: How Treatment Can Boost Focus

By |January 26th, 2021|Categories: Neurofeedback|

It can be a frustrating process to find an effective treatment for ADHD. Of all the possible approaches, why might neurofeedback and ADHD be paired? Perhaps you find that talk-therapy tedious or doesn't really address your issues. Or maybe all of the ADHD “hacks” for staying focused and organized have only been somewhat helpful. It might be that they just don't get to the root issues of your ADHD. You [...]

2001, 2021

Too Anxious to Socialize: Seeing a Therapist for Social Anxiety Helps

By |January 20th, 2021|Categories: Anxiety|

Have you struggled too long with social anxiety? Have you ever considered a therapist for social anxiety? Undoubtedly, feeling overwhelmed simply by being with other people makes normal life difficult. Working isn’t easy, and dating may be downright frightening! It can feel as though your situation is hopeless. But it doesn’t have to be. The key to solving this problem? Seeing a therapist for social anxiety. Perhaps just the thought [...]

1201, 2021

Invisible Suffering: Signs of High Functioning Depression

By |January 12th, 2021|Categories: Depression|

What are the signs of high functioning depression? Think of it this way: we all have times when we feel that we are just going through the motions in life. You wake up, go to work, come home, make dinner, etc. Rinse and repeat. But what if  "rinse and repeat" are all you've really felt for a long time? Depression steals the extra spark that reminds you of how good [...]

401, 2021

Boundaries and EMDR Psychotherapy: Restoring Personal Limits

By |January 4th, 2021|Categories: Trauma|

How can boundaries and EMDR psychotherapy work together? Well, first let's think about what you do to cope or manage your feelings? How do you feel safe? What makes you feel more powerful or less alone? Perhaps you cope with the discomfort and pain of the past by bending over backward for others? Or maybe saying yes when you are already exhausted is a problem for you. Do you people-please [...]

401, 2021

How Does Neurofeedback Work for Depression? What to Know

By |January 4th, 2021|Categories: Neurofeedback|

How does Neurofeedback work for Depression? For many people, it's a wonderful treatment choice.  Here’s the thing about depression. When you’re stuck in low moods, isolation, and self-defeatist thinking, it seems as if nothing works. Nothing helps lift you out of it. So, what happens next? If you're like many others, you might try one therapy technique after another, with little or no results. This only makes your depression worse. [...]

2212, 2020

Phobia Symptoms: How Afraid is Too Afraid?

By |December 22nd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Fear is a common human emotion. In fact, you could say that fear is very important for safety and appropriate sanctuary. Fear lets you know when there is danger. It can enable you to make better decisions to stay safe and escape harm. However, what happens when your fear response goes into overdrive? Particularly, when you are experiencing fear as a result of phobia symptoms? In such situations, fear can be crippling. [...]

1412, 2020

Performance Anxiety: Why EMDR Makes a Difference

By |December 14th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Performance anxiety is nothing new. But, EMDR psychotherapy treatment may help if you can relate to the following: The big game is about to start. You’ve been practicing and training for this moment for a long time. Everyone tells you how good you are and an asset to the team. However, just before you step onto the field, you freeze. You suddenly are filled with self-doubt. What if you aren’t [...]

812, 2020

How To Deal With PTSD Triggers: What Is the Best Trauma Treatment?

By |December 8th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

It’s been a great week. Things have been better than usual. You’ve been able to go to work and get your projects completed. At home, you played with your toddler and enjoy the moment, stress-free. Then, just when you let your guard down, you experience a PTSD trigger. Instantly, those memories come flashing back.  Emotionally, you skid out as you wonder how to deal with PTSD triggers once and for [...]

812, 2020

Are Worries Hanging Over You Like a Dark Cloud? – 5 Tips for Keeping Anxiety Under Control

By |December 8th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

    Depending on the situation, anxiety can possibly save your life or ruin it. It is a hardwired survival response, but it can misfire. Keeping anxiety under control may feel like an uphill battle.    Being nervous or distressed at times is normal and potentially helpful. However, if anxiety feels ever-present, it can prevent you from being productive or living your life to the fullest. When worries loom loom [...]

712, 2020

Unresolved Trauma: Here Is Why Trauma Isn’t Always Easy to Spot

By |December 7th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Unresolved trauma can be hard to spot. It can be confusing to undertrained therapist, physicians and patients alike. You may recognize it as a common meme idea: “Why am I like this?” But beneath the humor might lie something you need to explore. We all have those times when we do something that surprises us. For some folks, this may actually sound like your default setting. It’s as if something unknown [...]

3011, 2020

Depression Treatment-How to Get the Most Out of Therapy

By |November 30th, 2020|Categories: Depression|

Do you sense it may be time to consider depression treatment? You're not alone if you do. Depression can affect anyone of any age, gender, or demographic. Despite depression being a common mental illness, many feel as though they need to hide it from others. If you're suffering from depression, you may feel alone in your battle. Furthermore, you may feel like you will have to suffer in silence for [...]

2311, 2020

Recovering from Sexual Assault or Sexual Abuse is Supported by EMDR

By |November 23rd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

You may have even resigned yourself to the idea that recovering from sexual assault isn't possible. Are you reminded daily about the trauma related to your sexual assault? In the morning you might arise after a restless night of trying to sleep. Occasionally, a new reminder or memory may intrude on your thoughts. Memories that you didn’t realize were related to that terrible time may be triggered when you least [...]

1711, 2020

Career Disappeared? How EMDR Can Help You Accept Job Loss & Move On

By |November 17th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

In a financial climate that includes record unemployment and massive changes in industries across the board, many people are experiencing challenges in their careers. In some cases, their career paths have disappeared! This may feel impossible to accept. It may be even harder to move on. Regardless, it’s time to seek help. But where do you look for the healing you need? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) may just [...]

1611, 2020

Depression or Bipolar Disorder: Why You Need a Therapist for a Clear Diagnosis

By |November 16th, 2020|Categories: Depression|

It can be hard to tell the difference between depression or bipolar disorder. Both are serious mental health conditions that have an effect on your quality of life. Unfortunately, many people spend years suffering from the symptoms of depression or bipolar disorder without receiving the help that they need. However, you may have noticed that something is wrong lately. Is there a difference in how you live your life now? [...]

1011, 2020

Get Through Anxiety and Worry with These Grounding Techniques

By |November 10th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

When you struggle with anxiety and worry, it can be hard to feel grounded. As worried thoughts capture your attention, you can get caught up in thinking patterns that only serve to disconnect you from your world. This effects you, ramping up your nervouse system and making you feel even more anxious. Fortunately, there is a way to break this cycle before it even gets started. The key is utilizing [...]

411, 2020

EMDR and Your Brain: Maximizing Neuroplasticity

By |November 4th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

EMDR and your brain, act as a powerful healing team. Together, they can help you survive and thrive despite trauma. EMDR therapy can help improve or change old perceptions, soothe past hurts, and make the future bright again. Does this seem doubtful? That's fair. When you're hurting and traumatized, healing can feel far away. The distress, emotions, and memories connected to your trauma may even feel insurmountable. Yet, the beauty [...]

2710, 2020

Anxiety Symptoms and Men: Do Men Experience Anxiety Attacks Too?

By |October 27th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Yes, most definitely men experience anxiety symptoms and anxiety attacks. In fact, according the National Institute of Health's anxiety research, 22 % of men will meet criteria for a diagnosable anxiety disorder during the course of their lives. But you wouldn’t know it. That’s because many men struggle with talking about, let alone admitting that they struggle with anxiety. Also, anxiety symptoms and men, including anxiety attacks, can present differently [...]

1910, 2020

Why Men and Depression Go Untreated For Far Too Long

By |October 19th, 2020|Categories: Depression|

Men and depression; these subjects are linked more and more. But in a good way! That is to say that more men are getting better at admitting their feelings of depression and persistent low moods. Slowly but surely, the stigma about  men not speaking of such things is fading. Men from all walks of life are finally sharing their struggles. Unfortunately, the conversation sometimes starts to dry up when it's [...]

1410, 2020

Recovering from Complex PTSD: 3 Key Stages of Long-Term Healing

By |October 14th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder, or CPTSD, doesn't spring up overnight.  That means that recovering from complex PTSD requires commitment. While on the road to wellness, knowledge of the Complex PTSD Recovery Stages can help keep your therapy from going in circles. It’s terrible to acknowledge, but often, there are years of abuse and trauma involved. Emotional and physical scars probably make up a significant part of your history. Still, you [...]

610, 2020

Complex PTSD and Chronic Pain: Exploring the Connection

By |October 6th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Chronic pain, by definition, persists and lingers in the body. Suffering continues well after your injury heals or fades away. In fact, your brain and body register pain for months or even years after damage occurs. It is no huge leap then to conceive that complex PTSD and chronic pain go hand-in-hand. After all, the emotional pain that comes from suffering years or even decades of trauma also becomes stuck [...]

2809, 2020

Anxiety and Insomnia: How Deeply Are They Connected?

By |September 28th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Anxiety and insomnia are a powerful combination and can have a disruptive and negative impact on your life. Perhaps you "woke up" this morning, but the truth is that you really never fell asleep last night. Instead, you laid awake in bed with your mind racing. Maybe it’s been hard for you to concentrate and focus at work lately as a result. Now you're irritable and get into arguments quickly [...]

2209, 2020

Promoting Resilience for Trauma and PTSD Treatment—3 Major Benefits

By |September 22nd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Resilience for trauma and PTSD treatment, as well as your own commitment to recovery, will serve you well as you look towards the future. Instead of feeling trapped in the past,  promoting resilience allows you to develop confidence and calm. In time, you can know for certain that if you do experience a trigger or distressing event, you have the tools to handle it. Consider how these three major benefits [...]

1409, 2020

Anxiety Treatment Without Medication: 7 Most Effective Approaches

By |September 14th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

If you’ve done any research into anxiety treatment, you’ve most likely seen information about using medication. But what if you don’t want to rely on prescriptions and are curious about other anxiety treatment options? Or perhaps you’re concerned about the side-effects of drugs or becoming too reliant on them? Good news, there are many ways to access anxiety treatment without medication. These effective therapy approaches include both techniques to manage [...]

809, 2020

Who Is EMDR Appropriate For?—10 Questions to Consider

By |September 8th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

You may now be familiar with Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing as a proven and helpful path to trauma recovery. Yet, you may still wonder," who is EMDR appropriate for?" As you may know, EMDR is a powerful therapeutic tool that harnesses the ability of your brain to adapt and heal. This is achieved through coaching from a therapist who helps you become calm and balanced through a process of simple [...]

2408, 2020

PTSD, Nightmares, and Sleep: Is Finding Relief Possible?

By |August 24th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

No matter how hard you try, it seems impossible to get a good night’s sleep. Drifting off to sleep sounds like a fantasy. And staying asleep through the whole night is just too daunting.The reason is the nightmares connected to your PTSD nightmares that you experience each and every night. PTSD nightmares jar you, disturb you, and cause you a lot of fear. Maybe these sleep disturbances are also the reasons why [...]

1708, 2020

Discovering a Path Forward with Effective Complex PTSD Help

By |August 17th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

All too often the word used to describe people struggling with PTSD and complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is that they are “stuck.” Despite wanting to feel better, they find it tough to get good complex PTSD help.  Often this is because they are locked into a mindset that ultimately is not their fault. Rather, their brain has been hijacked due to years—and sometimes even decades—of trauma and abuse. They may be [...]

1008, 2020

The Long-Term Effects of Bullying: What Factors Play a Role?

By |August 10th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

When you are a young child, or even a teen, you are not even remotely considering the long-term effects of bullying. You just want it to stop. Sadly, though, it often doesn't, and many children have to struggle daily with bullying—either in-person or online. Thus, adults need to seriously consider the mental health risk associated with childhood bullying. In particular, the risk for depression, substance abuse, and more when these [...]

408, 2020

Getting to the Root of Your Trauma by Working with a Complex PTSD Therapist

By |August 4th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

When it comes to resolving complex trauma, many factors are at work. So if you want to progress working with complex PTSD therapist is vital. Individually, each symptom you have might not seem like much, such as getting a little nervous when you are in a car. However, collectively, complex trauma creates systems that are like strings that are all tangled up. And that make it very hard to heal. [...]

408, 2020

Neurofeedback- How Many Sessions?

By |August 4th, 2020|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Thinking about doing some neurofeedback therapy? If so, one of the questions you might have is how long your therapy will take. In fact, regardless of the therapy modality, many people wonder how long it will be before they meet their goals. That's a great question and in this post, I'll do my best to provide you with a guideline. So when starting neurofeedback, how many sessions should you plan [...]

2707, 2020

Time Does Not Heal All Wounds – The Effects of Childhood Neglect and Abuse

By |July 27th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

How can you understand the effects of childhood neglect and abuse? Most people have heard of the saying “time heals all wounds.” It's meant to imply that healing from trauma is possible with space and distance from those events. This might actually be true in some circumstances. A little time might be all that you need to recover from a painful life setback such as an ugly breakup or an [...]

2007, 2020

6 Powerful Coping Skills for Anxiety Relief

By |July 20th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Having a toolbox of anxiety relief coping skills to use when you need them is critical. Getting through each day calls for having more than one skill handy since you'll likely face different situations that may occur unexpectedly. And not all of them can be handled using the same method. Aside from "emergency" relief, though, these skills can also help you to thrive, even while living with anxiety. That's an [...]

2007, 2020

Can Emdr Be Used For Other Issues Besides Trauma?

By |July 20th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

EMDR stands for "Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing". Therapists have been using EMDR to treat trauma since the late 1980's.  It is offered to patients in private practice and in institutional settings like clinics, residential treatment programs and hospitals. It's a evidence based form of trauma therapy that is that is widely known. In fact, thousands of research studies support it's clinical efficacy. But what about other symptoms? Can EMDR [...]

1307, 2020

Online Anxiety Disorder Treatment: Does It Really Work?

By |July 13th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Perhaps you’ve always known that you are a worrier. Ever since you were little you may have had worries or fears that kept you up at night. And during the day, they may have lingered in the back of your mind, even when you went to school. Maybe you thought that those worries would eventually go away. Yet, as you got older, you might have found yourself carrying all those fears [...]

607, 2020

Neurofeedback for Anger Management: Can It Help You Control Your Outbursts?

By |July 6th, 2020|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Can Neurofeedback for Anger Management help you manage and reduce your outbursts? Let's talk about it. But first, you know what it's like: Your anger erupted and you lost your cool. It happened so quickly that you barely remember. In a flash, you went from having a pretty average day to raging with anger. Even if you had wanted to try to calm your anger in the moment, that wouldn’t [...]

2306, 2020

The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: Idealization, Devaluation, Rejection

By |June 23rd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle can be fertile ground for the development of trauma symptoms. But the dynamics of a relationship with a narcissist can confuse you. Wrapping your head around the thinking style of a narcissist can be quite hard. After all, the term itself brings up an image of someone whose life is centered solely on themselves. However, things are not as obvious as they may appear to be. [...]

1506, 2020

Symptoms and Types of Dissociative Disorders

By |June 15th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

There is no question that experiencing trauma has an impact on a person's life. It could be a stand-alone single incident, such as an accident or loss. Or it may be due to experiencing years of abuse. But either way, there are some types of dissociative disorders you should know about. Understandably, that issues such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse are common problems for those who have lived through [...]

806, 2020

Treating Self-Harm: What Is the Role of Therapy?

By |June 8th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

It can be hard to understand why anyone would want to injure themselves. It's upsetting to think about self harm such as by hitting or purposely cutting themselves. The idea sounds counter-intuitive. After all, don’t people want to protect themselves from harm, rather than cause it intentionally? Let's talk about treating self-harm. Yes, most of us want to feel good and protect ourselves from pain. But the truth is more [...]

306, 2020

Sexual Abuse Therapy: Healing the Trauma of Sexual Assault

By |June 3rd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Sexual assault, whether it was one instance or you've endured years of abuse, affects you at the very core of your being. That's where sexual abuse therapy can be so valuable. The experience shapes your perspectives, can lead to trauma symptoms, and affects how you interact with the world.  An abuse history makes it hard to form relationships with other people. You develop trust issues.  And , the guilt and [...]

2305, 2020

Dissociation and Trauma: How a Single Traumatic Event Can Cause Detachment

By |May 23rd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Are you feeling emotionally numb and detached from both yourself and others? Perhaps you’ve not felt yourself for a while now, and you’re not sure why. And there are times when you just don’t feel connected at all with what’s going on around you. Or, you've been in therapy for years, but don't seem to ever get great traction. You still struggle with symptoms. What about your memory? You’ve been told [...]

1805, 2020

Hypervigilance and Trauma: Coping with the Effects of PTSD/C-PTSD

By |May 18th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Hypervigilance and trauma create some of the most troubling life problems. Sleeplessness. Worry. Always waiting for the other shoe to drop. For the longest time that you can remember, you’ve always felt on edge. You always are looking for something that could go wrong. The constant scanning of hypervigilance you feel keeps you from ever completely relaxing. So you keep up your guard, no matter the situation. Whether you are [...]

1105, 2020

Panic vs. Anxiety Attack: Is There a Difference?

By |May 11th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Maybe you find it hard to understand the difference between a panic attack and an anxiety attack. After all, aren't they the same thing? Actually, not as much as you would think. While people can struggle with either—or both—the reality is that these are two separate problems with distinct differences. Understanding these differences and how and why panic and anxiety attacks happen can be useful when you're looking for ways to [...]

805, 2020

Could You Have High Functioning Anxiety?

By |May 8th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Recently, I've had a handful of clients who told me some version of the following: "My friend forwarded me an article about high functioning anxiety. It sounded exactly like me." This piqued my curiosity. 25 years of experience in psychology has familiarized me with the fact that there are waves of symptom clusters that mysteriously find their way through my front door. So too, there are catchphrases that suddenly burst [...]

305, 2020

Can Stress Therapy Help You Overcome Emotional Strain?

By |May 3rd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

When it comes to stress management, it’s important to take advantage of all of your options. You probably have heard about lots of tips and tricks for managing anxiety and stress in your daily life. However, stress therapy may not necessarily have been mentioned. Though, it should also be included in your overall plan to overcome the emotional strain related to anxiety. Why? Because in therapy we can take advantage of specific [...]

2704, 2020

When Emotional Flashbacks and Trauma Wreck Your Life, What Can You Do?

By |April 27th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

When you have an emotional flashback, it can often be sudden, overwhelming, and distressing. It's like they seem to just come out of nowhere. The slightest thing could be a trigger. Flashbacks connected to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can, in an instant, mentally transport you back to the trauma that has shaped part of your life ever since. And, of course, these traumatic flashbacks are upsetting because they bring up [...]

2004, 2020

Experiencing PTSD from a Relationship? How Is That Possible?

By |April 20th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

When we think of post-traumatic stress disorder, relationships may be the last thing we'd considered as a source of trauma. After all, aren’t relationships supposed to be loving, affirming, and kind? If so, how can someone suffer with PTSD from a relationship? Sadly, not always. In fact, many people find themselves in toxic relationships. These are situations that are the exact opposite of what a relationship should be. They are filled with [...]

1304, 2020

Non-Drug C-PTSD Help: Managing Symptoms the Natural Way

By |April 13th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

  Coping with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) isn’t easy. But natural and effective C-PTSD help is available. Despite the risk, there’s a reason why so many people turn to treatment options that utilize psychiatric drugs to cope. The emotional pain is so great and the traumatic memories so disturbing, it seems like those are the only approaches that can offer a solution. However, C-PTSD symptoms can be managed in [...]

1304, 2020

Dissociation- What is it, and what can you do?

By |April 13th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Dissociation is a coping mechanism that is fundamental to surviving trauma. In fact the two go hand in hand. Understanding what it is, can help you in your own trauma recovery, or help you better understand your loved one's healing journey. Sometimes we as humans endure experiences that are emotionally overwhelming. When this happens, our brains can divide our experiences and break them up into disconnected parts. It's kind of [...]

604, 2020

The Misery of C-PTSD Flashbacks: 10 Steps to Take Control

By |April 6th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

The emotional flashbacks happen suddenly and without warning. You encountered a trigger that you weren’t expecting. Maybe it was something you saw or heard. Even odors and smells cause these C-PTSD flashbacks.  They take you back to one of the many events that occurred in your past, causing complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD). This type of PTSD is considered “complex” because the trauma involved not one single incident but many [...]

604, 2020

High Stress Coping-3 Practices For Creating Calm

By |April 6th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Right now, stress is running very high. With the arrival of the Covid 19 public health emergency, there are so many unknowns, and so many sudden unforeseen pressures.  Surely everyone is being impacted in one way or another.  You likely have had to make dramatic changes to your work and home life. Recently, my clients have reported a host of dramatic changes that upended their lives. These include: Suddenly losing [...]

204, 2020

Anxiety Disorders- A Path To Peace Of Mind

By |April 2nd, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

Anxiety Disorders are on the rise globally. In fact, about 30% of all adults will suffer with one during their lifetimes. But what's normal, often isn't what's optimal. Everyone struggles with anxiety sometimes, so how can you tell whether you could benefit from anxiety treatment? Let's begin with the basics. What Are Anxiety Disorders? It's normal to worry sometimes. We all have times when we feels stressed out. And as [...]

2503, 2020

PTSD Triggers- Finding Your Way

By |March 25th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

"Imagine tiptoeing across a minefield. You execute every move with exquisite care. Even your breath is measured because one wrong move could turn everything hellish."  That's how one of my client's described living with her PTSD triggers. PTSD Triggers- What Are They? PTSD triggers are things that reminds you of an earlier trauma People commonly use the term "trigger" because this word captures the automatic, almost mechanical nature of what [...]

2103, 2020

Complex PTSD Symptoms- How They Take Over Your Life

By |March 21st, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Complex PTSD Symptoms can tear apart your relationships and your career. C PTSD, or C-PTSD  is the acronym for Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Some people refer to it as "complex trauma".  But all these phrases refer to a mental health challenge that can occur in some people, after they experience, or witness repeated traumatic event or conditions. The symptoms of C PTSD often stem from a physically or emotionally [...]

2103, 2020

Effective Treatments for PTSD: Investigating Viable Therapy Choices

By |March 21st, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

What are effective treatments for PTSD? That is an important question because PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, can be a crippling mental health issue. When you experience PTSD, traumatic events haunt you because you have never been fully able to process them. You may struggle with nightmares, anxiety, and fear among other issues. If you have PTSD, it’s important to know what are therapy choices that constitute effective treatments. Luckily, [...]

1703, 2020

Natural Anxiety Treatments: Best Ways to Find Lasting Relief

By |March 17th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

When you struggle with anxiety, it can seem as if it will never go away. That's because you're always feeling anxious, to one degree or another, every day. Over time, this can really wear you down, making it hard to enjoy life and get any relief. Perhaps you’ve tried to get help—but nothing seems to work. And maybe you'd rather avoid medication. Don't despair. There are ways to find relief [...]

1103, 2020

PTSD- 7 Tips For Coping

By |March 11th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

PTSD; it's something that can impact your life in a deep and long lasting way. PTSD is common. It's estimated that about 7-9 percent of our population meets the diagnostic criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder at one point in their lives. So, if you have been though something terrifying, and now your struggling, you are not alone. It's important to get trauma treatment from a qualified professional.  And in [...]

903, 2020

Considering Natural Treatments for ADHD? – What Are Your Options?

By |March 9th, 2020|Categories: ADHD|

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD, is a very well-known condition. It’s estimated that just over 4% of adults in the United States have ADHD. As it is oftentimes the case in our society, sufferers are told that the only solution available is to take prescription medication. However, this is a narrow view, and it's a false one. Just as with other disorders, a one-size-fits-all approach is not necessarily appropriate [...]

203, 2020

EMDR for Depression: Examining a Powerful Non-Drug Treatment

By |March 2nd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Oftentimes when seeking out depression treatment people are told that they need to take medication. However, medication may not be appropriate or even necessary in all cases. What if there was a powerful non-drug treatment that could help?  EMDR for depression could be the answer. It's a form of therapy that accesses the ability of your brain to process and store information. That’s critically important because with depression you might have so [...]

2502, 2020

ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria- What’s The Link?

By |February 25th, 2020|Categories: ADHD|

ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria; together these two make a painful pair. And if you have ADHD, you could be feeling the pain of this common ADHD symptom cluster and it could be rearing it's head in your relationship. But first, imagine what it's like growing up with ADHD. You get negative attention from teachers and coaches. Other kids seem to be able to easily grasp things that you struggle [...]

2502, 2020

Consequences of Anxiety: Can Emotional Stress Affect You Physically?

By |February 25th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

There are two significant consequences of anxiety to consider. The first, of course, is the mental effects of stress on your psyche and well-being. Irritability, sadness, and not feeling in control are all symptoms of mental anxiety and stress. However, does emotional stress affect you physically too? The answer, unfortunately, is yes. Stress isn’t just something that can impact you mentally. It is a problem that causes harm throughout your body. And [...]

1702, 2020

Taking a Closer Look at Treatment Techniques: What Happens in EMDR Therapy?

By |February 17th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

What happens in EMDR therapy? These days, there are many treatment techniques available for addressing trauma. In fact, you may have heard about one of these treatments: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). EMDR has been shown to be an especially effective way of helping those who have been diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  However, while you may have heard of it, you might still be wondering: What exactly [...]

1002, 2020

Stress, Anxiety, and Irritable Bowel Syndrome: The Neurofeedback Alternative

By |February 10th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

There is a strong connection between anxiety and irritable bowel syndrome. One of the problems with stress and anxiety is that you can develop physical problems or ailments.  And often, symptoms can be made worse by emotional distress. For instance, we know that anxiety can cause persistent and painful headaches. Moreover, gastrointestinal problems are often linked to anxiety and stress as well. In fact, you may remember being a little [...]

302, 2020

Traumatic Brain Injuries and Neurofeedback Treatment: What Science Has Learned

By |February 3rd, 2020|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Traumatic brain injuries and neurofeedback, let's talk about how some patients address their head injury symptoms. When it comes to human anatomy, the brain is such a fascinating organ. And today there is so much information and scientific understanding—both in clinical circles and the news—about the brain. One aspect of the brain that has gotten extra special attention is traumatic brain injury (TBI). These days, for instance, on a nationally [...]

302, 2020

Trauma Flashbacks- What Are They and What Helps?

By |February 3rd, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Trauma, PTSD and Complex PTSD (CPTSD) all have something in common.  All of them share trauma flashbacks as a major symptom. But if you have never experience trauma, you might wonder "What Is A Flashback And How Does It Feel?"  A flashback is an intrusive thought, image, sensation, or memory. It's common that during a flashback, a trauma survivor will feel like they are re-living the traumatic experience once more. [...]

302, 2020

How Does Neurofeedback Therapy Work?

By |February 3rd, 2020|Categories: Neurofeedback|

"How Does Neurofeedback Therapy Work?" Clients, and other therapists ask me question all the time. Neurofeedback training is a therapy modality that has been around for decades. Developed by researchers in the 1960s, scientists were looking for method to help train astronauts to avoid seizures which can be caused by exposure to rocket fuel. Later in the 1970s,  neurofeedback was used to reasearch and treat ADHD. But despite it's longevity [...]

102, 2020

Can Neurofeedback Help With Anger?

By |February 1st, 2020|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback can help with anger. But how? Do you get too bent out of shape by small things? Do you wish you were able to catch your anger sooner, so that you would only say and do things you feel good about? Then it might be time for you to consider neurofeedback training. Our brains effect everything. They influence what we do, feel and think. It's commonly known that people [...]

102, 2020

Opening a Window Into the Brain – How EMDR Works

By |February 1st, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Imagine for a moment your brain. It’s an amazing yet sensitive piece of your anatomy. However, it’s what you can’t see that perhaps makes it so vulnerable. Specifically, the effects of emotional trauma. When you have traumatic experiences, your brain does its best to protect both you and itself at the same time. This can look like “walling off” memories or thoughts associated with that trauma. Basically, it tells you that [...]

2701, 2020

When EMDR Doesn’t Work- A Checklist For Patients

By |January 27th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

You have heard about how effective EMDR therapy is. Your friend or your loved one shared with you about how healing and transformational EMDR therapy was for them. You "gave it a try", but you didn't get the result you wanted. Now what? What Should You do When EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Doesn't work? What Does It Mean That "EMDR Didn't Work"? When my therapy clients tell me [...]

2701, 2020

Anxiety and G.I. Problems: What Is the Connection?

By |January 27th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

The human body is absolutely fascinating, isn't it? Every day we are learning more how it works and realizing the extent that the different systems inside us don’t operate independently. The stomach doesn’t just process food, nor does the heart just pump blood. Rather, all of these physical mechanisms that are responsible for keeping you alive are actually connected, and our emotional brains affect them greatly. Thus, when you experience [...]

2101, 2020

Trauma and Betrayal – Learning to Trust Your Partner Again

By |January 21st, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

There’s an old saying “Your word is your bond.” It’s often applied when making an agreement between two parties. For instance, the belief that all you need to make a contract between two people is your word and a handshake. At the core of that belief is trust. You are trusting  one another to follow through with their word. The same is true when making a commitment to a life partner. [...]

1401, 2020

Complex PTSD Triggers- Your 5 Point Coping Plan

By |January 14th, 2020|Categories: Trauma|

Coping with Complex PTSD triggers requires strength, commitment and bravery. Imagine: A disturbing memory pops into your mind while you are trying to focus on work. Or a body sensation distracts you, turning a pleasant conversation with a friend into a chore.  Or your body reacts with fear or anger to loved ones, even when your head knows they are trustworthy. That's because one of the most troubling parts of [...]

1401, 2020

Unsafe Behavior, ADHD, and Teens—A Guide for Parents

By |January 14th, 2020|Categories: ADHD|

It seems as if the words “unsafe behavior” and “teens” should go hand-in-hand. After all, who doesn’t have a story from their youth when they took an unnecessary risk or made a poor decision. This is particularly true when we talk about ADHD and teens. That’s all part of growing up and making the transition from childhood to being an adult. However, when it comes to ADHD and teens, unsafe [...]

701, 2020

Your Adolescent’s Health: How to Recognize Signs of Anxiety in Teens

By |January 7th, 2020|Categories: Anxiety|

There’s been a lot of discussion about anxiety and how it relates to adolescents' health. Today, teens are more stressed-out than those in previous generations. There’s pressure to be successful in school, sports, and extracurricular activities. Beyond that, college admissions can also be a source of anxiety. This includes getting into the “right” school and having the “ideal” application package. And let’s not forget about all of the social stressors that teens [...]

2212, 2019

Preventing Anxiety Attacks: 5 Viable Strategies

By |December 22nd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Preventing anxiety attacks; it's the goal and wish of so many who suffer with chronic anxiety. And it's totally understandable. When you are stuck in an anxiety attack, it can feel as if you are trapped. There’s just no way out, and that’s scary. But what if you could prevent these attacks from occurring in the first place? Is that even possible? The answer is yes! However, there is no [...]

1712, 2019

Why You Really Do Need a Therapist to Help with Your Depression

By |December 17th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

If you've come to think that you’re depressed, the reality is that you've most likely been stuck in depression much longer than you realize. People who are diagnosed with depression must show symptoms of the condition for at least two consecutive weeks. Most, however, have shown intermittent signs for years. Sadly, though, many are reluctant to get professional help despite suspecting they have a problem. Do you fall into this [...]

1212, 2019

How Living with Major Depression Affects You

By |December 12th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

If you suffer from or have ever suffered from depression, you know first-hand just how difficult it can make daily living. Depression is a mental illness, but it impacts nearly every aspect of your life—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Symptoms of depression include: Fatigue and tiredness Apathy Loss of interest in activities, hobbies, or socializing Change in appetite—eating too much or too little Feelings of sadness, despair, or hopelessness Irritability Mood [...]

912, 2019

Recovery from Chronic Anxiety Disorders – The Struggle Is Worth It!

By |December 9th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Regardless of where you are in your recovery from chronic anxiety, you deserve a pat on the back and a high-five (really!). Whether it’s your first day on this new journey or you’ve been doing this for years, chronic anxiety disorders can be an ever-present challenge. Maybe it strikes when you’re at work, trying to meet a deadline. Or you suddenly start feeling anxiety welling up at home. Even when [...]

312, 2019

Could It Be That You’re Depressed? – Signs of Depression You Shouldn’t Ignore

By |December 3rd, 2019|Categories: Depression|

  There are signs of depression you shouldn't ignore Depression symptoms aren’t always obvious, especially if you are already depressed. You might not realize that you are struggling, let alone think to ask if are you depressed or not. Life feels so hard, and you just don’t care. Yet, it doesn’t have to be this way. Your life can be richer and more rewarding. However, it starts by recognizing that something’s wrong. [...]

2611, 2019

Adapting EMDR for Treating Complex PTSD Symptoms

By |November 26th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Emdr for treating complex PTSD symptoms - Can It Be Helpful? Eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) has become a powerful tool for clinicians to help people recover and heal from general post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The technique is used, essentially, to focus on particular memories and to reprocess them. While, at the same time, the patient experiences bilateral stimulation provided by the therapist, such as following the therapist's finger back [...]

1911, 2019

Why Working with an EMDR Therapist Might Be Essential

By |November 19th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

No one likes to admit when they have hit a brick wall, metaphorically speaking. It’s easier to put on an air of confidence rather than admit that something is very wrong. However, deep down inside you probably know that, despite years of effort, there are still emotional issues that cling tightly to you. That’s why now, more than ever, working with an EMDR therapist may be something you should seriously consider. [...]

1111, 2019

How Growing Up with Emotionally Abusive Parents Affects You in Adulthood

By |November 11th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s been years or even decades since you were a child, living with emotionally abusive parents. You would think that it would be possible to put the past behind you and move on. Yet, the emotional abuse you experienced still feels fresh. It’s as if those experiences had just happened yesterday. The result of having experienced emotional abuse is that you approach life today much differently than you would like. Things that [...]

1111, 2019

EMDR Side Effects? Let’s Have A Look

By |November 11th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Over 30 years after it's origination, EMDR, seems to be enjoying a new popularity.  EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, has been hailed as an effective treatment for PTSD.  Therapists who treat clients using EMDR, and clients who have benefited from the approach are often excited by the positive results they've experienced.  But does this potent form of mental health treatment have side effects? In this post, I'll share [...]

311, 2019

Going Beyond Talking – What Are Effective, Drug-Free Treatments for Anxiety?

By |November 3rd, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

We are fortunate. We live in a time where we have access to effective drug-free treatments for anxiety. Although talk therapy is an essential healing approach for many, it may not always be the right choice for treating anxiety. This can leave those who struggle with anxiety wondering what to do. It's especially true if they are in search of drug-free treatments for anxiety. If this applies to you, be [...]

2810, 2019

Understanding Depression Symptoms: Help Your Loved Ones to Grasp Your Struggle

By |October 28th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

Depression can feel like such a lonely struggle. Not everyone has struggled with depression. Sometimes, we have to help our loved ones with understanding depression symptoms This is true even if you are surrounded by people who care deeply about you. It’s because your family and friends may fail in understanding your depression symptoms and the effects that they can have. That's not necessarily your loved ones’ fault. Rather, they [...]

2110, 2019

The Daily Battle with Social Anxiety Disorder Symptoms: How Can You Prevail?

By |October 21st, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Every day can feel like a battle when dealing with symptoms of social anxiety disorder. Doing things that most take for granted, such as going to work or attending class can become utterly overwhelming. Plus, there are social engagements that you are expected to attend. Whether it’s a team meeting at work or friends wanting to get together for a few drinks on Friday, the result is the same. As soon as [...]

2110, 2019

Alternative Depression Therapy

By |October 21st, 2019|Categories: Depression|

"I need alternative depression therapy. I couldn't find my happiness, peace of mind or joy at the bottom of my pill bottle!". Sound familiar?  Said as a wisecrack, this a quote that has stuck with me for a few years now. One of my former depression therapy clients, Susanna (not her real name) said it to me in our first phone call. As we talked more, she went on to [...]

1410, 2019

Nightmares and PTSD: When Past Trauma Follows You Into Your Sleep—5 Solutions

By |October 14th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Nightmares and PTSD. You had that dream again. All of a sudden you wake up with a start, dripping with sweat. For an instant, you’re not sure if you are still in the nightmare or if you are in the real world. Eventually, things start to settle, your breathing slows, and you realize that you are in your bedroom. Yet, it felt like what you were dreaming was so real. Nightmares due [...]

710, 2019

When Your Body Constantly Cries Out—Seeking EMDR for Chronic Pain Management

By |October 7th, 2019|Categories: Trauma, Uncategorized|

“It hurts! Make it stop!” Every moment of every day your body cries out. It’s telling you that something is terribly wrong and needs to be fixed. EMDR for chronic pain might be just the relief you are looking for. The way that your body cries this out is through chronic pain. Depending on your circumstance, that message is sent out through various parts of your body. For some, it’s [...]

2309, 2019

EMDR Or CBT? Which Is Better For PTSD?

By |September 23rd, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Do you suffer with PTSD, or trauma symptoms? If so, should you be seeking EMDR or CBT therapy? I wrote this blog post to help you decide. EMDR or CBT? Which is More Effective For PTSD? When it comes to PTSD therapy, there are a few main treatment approaches that are widely available. Many people have heard and read about both EMDR therapy and CBT therapy. But how are you [...]

2309, 2019

A Balanced Approach to ADHD Treatment for Children and Teens

By |September 23rd, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Millions of children and teens in the U.S. are diagnosed with ADHD. In fact, it’s become a very common diagnosis, and much has been written about the condition and how it affects kids. Certainly, having attention issues and being prone to distraction and impulsivity is problematic in our society. Dealing with these problems can make it really hard to be successful in school or work. Moreover, behavior that’s common with [...]

1609, 2019

The Advantages of EMDR in Trauma-Informed Care

By |September 16th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

If you are struggling with trauma, you want a treatment that will work. That's where Emdr in trauma-informed care comes in. It’s hard enough coping with the emotions and memories associated with the trauma that you experienced. And this is true whether those events occurred last week or even decades ago. Perhaps you’ve even given up hope that you could resolve your trauma. But you can, by participating in trauma-informed [...]

909, 2019

Battling Severe Depression: Is It Possible to Triumph Over the Darkness?

By |September 9th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

When you’re battling severe depression, it can be a long road towards recovering. You feel so alone and that nobody can possibly understand what you’re going through. It's like walking down a long, dark road by yourself. And the obstacles that you must face on this journey can be overwhelming. It’s not just the depression. There’s also shame and guilt, and even substance abuse issues, as you try to numb [...]

909, 2019

EMDR Therapist Answers Your FAQs

By |September 9th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

As an Emdr therapist, I get questions. Often questions about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) come from clients who have have heard or read about it's efficacy and want to know more. Probably the most common question about EMDR is the following: What Is EMDR Therapy And How Does It Work? EMDR is a psychotherapy modality that is integrative. It contains elements of treatment that exist in other approaches, [...]

109, 2019

Help for Chronic and Severe Anxiety: Treatment Options

By |September 1st, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Sometimes, the search for getting help with chronic or severe anxiety can be as nerve-wracking as the anxiety itself. So many questions and doubts can exist. Will therapy really work for me? Which treatment options will be the most effective? How will this be any different than my previous treatment experiences? After all, it’s very discouraging if you have already been to anxiety treatment before, and it didn’t work. However, [...]

109, 2019

How To Help Someone With Complex PTSD (CPTSD)

By |September 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It's awful to see someone you love suffer. You see how anxious and triggered they can get. Their mood swings. You see how troubled they become in intimate relationships. And you say to yourself "I wish I knew how to help someone with Complex PTSD". Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is the result of surviving repeated abuse. Sadly, it often occurs at the hands of those who are supposed to love and [...]

3008, 2019

What Is PTSD- 6 Signs and Symptoms

By |August 30th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

What is PTSD? You hear about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in the news, in movies and on TV. But what is it really? And could you be suffering from it? PTSD affects both young and old people. It affects men and women. And it's fairly common. In fact 24.4 Million Americans suffer from the signs and symptoms of PTSD. That is 8% of our population. So if you think [...]

2708, 2019

Living With OCD- Tips For OCD Recovery

By |August 27th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

"I'm so OCD".  Joking about our own personal peccadillos, we sometimes toss this phrase around lightly. But for the 1 in 4o Americans who actually suffer from it, living with OCD, or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, can be pretty unfunny. Recovery from OCD is possible, though for many, it's not so easy. As a practicing therapist, I've been fortunate to help clients overcome OCD symptoms. And I also seen some people [...]

2708, 2019

Neurofeedback Treatment for Chronic Anxiety and Mood Disorders: How Effective Is It?

By |August 27th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You want to get better and not feel depressed and anxious anymore. And like many people you're concerned about the dangers of psychiatric drugs. It might be time to give serious consideration to neurofeedback for chronic anxiety Chronic anxiety and depression plague many people. And if you are like them, it’s been hard finding a treatment that really works. Therapy has helped, and you might take medication that’s been prescribed [...]

2508, 2019

When Stress Makes You Ill

By |August 25th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Medical issues can be complicated. And when health problems are chronic, there are often many strands to unravel. A common contributing factor in poor health is stress. How can you know when stress makes you ill? Stress Is Everywhere, And It's Increasing A little stress can be a good thing. If you want to strengthen your muscles. you do it by working out. You intentionally stress your body in order [...]

2008, 2019

Don’t Want To Overcome Depression? Here’s How Not To!

By |August 20th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

There are steps you can take to overcome depression and steps you can take which will keep you stuck. A How- To Article on How Not to Overcome Depression? Why would I do that? It feels awful to be depressed. Why wouldn't I write about how depression feels awful and what you can do to feel relief?  Well the reason I decided to write this is because sometimes it's very [...]

1908, 2019

Living with Anxiety: What to Do When You Feel Panicky – 5 Tips

By |August 19th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

When you're living with anxiety, you need multiple tools in your toolbox to deal with a panic attack. You can’t just rely on one trick. It's a good thing to have an idea of what to do when you feel panicky. After all, a panic attack could happen when you least expect it. It’s a lot harder to go for a walk to work off the anxiety when you’re stuck [...]

1308, 2019

Why Depression and Feeling Worthless Are So Closely Linked

By |August 13th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

The problem with depression isn’t just that you are feeling down or sad. It's that depression has the power to affect how you perceive yourself.  Depression and feeling worthless often go hand in hand. Depression changes your outlook. It alters how you interact with the world, and can actually cause you to redefine who you are as a person. This altered outlook is no longer based on uplifting beliefs about [...]

1108, 2019

Emdr vs. Neurofeedback- What Therapy Is Best?

By |August 11th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

"Can you compare EMDR vs Neurofeedback? Which is better for you? " Every couple of weeks, a new client asks me this question. Many of the patients who are referred to me are fairly educated about trauma therapy treatment options. They have heard or read about the effectiveness of both EMDR and Neurofeedback. But they are not sure which might be the best treatment approach for them. Below are some [...]

508, 2019

Complex PTSD and Dissociation: How the Mind Copes with Trauma

By |August 5th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Complex trauma can be an incredibly heavy burden to bear. It leaves emotional scars that still feel very raw, even years after the trauma occurred. The mind’s way of coping with such intense and repeated trauma is often to detach from what happened. This is called dissociation. And although it may be the innate way the mind deals with complex PTSD, that doesn’t mean it’s a healthy coping response. While the brain [...]

508, 2019

Trauma Treatment- Why You Might Need It and Not Know

By |August 5th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

"I had no idea I really needed trauma treatment. I wish I knew that 25 years ago." Angie, said this when we met for our closing trauma therapy session. But this is not the only time I've heard something like this. In fact, I've heard this many times before. Regularly, counseling clients tell me about the their history in therapy. Too often, they describe a course of therapy that fails [...]

2707, 2019

7 Important Symptoms of Childhood Trauma in Adults

By |July 27th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Symptoms of childhood trauma in adults might be holding you back.   What is Childhood Trauma? Almost no one has a perfect childhood...but some kids have it much worse than others. That's because some kids grow up in what I call  "high threat zones". They see and hear things that terrify them. They are small, they are confused and they often have no big person who can guide, protect or [...]

2207, 2019

Neurofeedback and Developmental Trauma Treatment: Making Recovery Possible

By |July 22nd, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Developmental trauma treatment is a clinical specialty-it's not practiced widely. Most therapists can probably help you with the effects of a "less than optimal" early life. But unless the therapist has specialized developmental trauma treatment training and experience, you are likely to spin your wheels in therapy. Sadly, that's a tale I've heard from patients time and time again throughout my career. Let's dive in. Typically, when you think of [...]

1807, 2019

Coping with Panic Attacks: 5 Effective Treatments Aside from Psychiatric Drugs

By |July 18th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Coping with panic attacks; it's easier said than done. Panic attacks can be a very scary and debilitating experience. And if you have had one, you might be constantly on alert, dreading the possibility of the next attack. When you are stuck in the middle of an attack, you often feel powerless to do anything about it. Many client have the told me of the terror they felt when they [...]

807, 2019

Why Use EMDR for PTSD and Complex Trauma Symptoms?

By |July 8th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PSTD) can have a ripple effect on your life.  Navigating PTSD and complex trauma symptoms requires effort and intention. This is often true even long after the trauma has occurred. However, the effects of that trauma continue to emerge through PTSD symptoms. If you have experienced complex trauma, which is trauma that occurs repeatedly, then certainly it will have a negative impact on your life. That is... unless [...]

107, 2019

Men and Trauma Treatment: How Trauma Symptoms Manifest Differently in Men

By |July 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s unfortunate that both men and women will experience trauma. But when it comes to men and trauma treatment, there is a bit of a difference. Whether it’s as a child or an adult, either gender could face trauma in their lifetimes (although, statistically, women are more like to go through a trauma than men). However, each will experience trauma symptoms differently. If you are a man who has seen [...]

107, 2019

Who Can Benefit From Neurofeedback? A Quick Guide For Healthcare Providers

By |July 1st, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Many types of clients can benefit from neurofeedback brain training. The other day, a therapist colleague reached out to me. She asked a question that I frequently get from other healthcare providers. Not only had she heard and read about neurofeedback, but she also heard reports from her patients about how neurofeedback helped them. and She wondered if she should refer her psychotherapy client to me for adjunct neurofeedback training."I [...]

2306, 2019

Adoption Trauma: What It Is and How It May Be Affecting You

By |June 23rd, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Being adopted isn't easy. It can be hard to form a connection with a new family. Even as a child grows up, perhaps they continue feeling out of place and never fully integrated into the household. Eventually, as an adult, they may also find it difficult to cope with significant life transitions—always feeling anxious and sensitive to potential threats. These are all issues that are related to what is called [...]

1606, 2019

What Are the Symptoms of Complex PTSD/Complex Trauma?

By |June 16th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

    Complex trauma is a condition that develops due to experiencing multiple and repeated traumas when you were young. The effect of this continued exposure to trauma as a child can have significant ramifications- even into adulthood. Being exposed to complex trauma causes changes in brain development. There are learned experiences that influence how you perceive and interact with the world as an adult. Thus, complex trauma often leads [...]

1006, 2019

Complex Trauma in Adults: How to Support Your Own Recovery

By |June 10th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

There’s that old saying: “Time heals all wounds.” Yet, you know better. In fact, in your case, time only added to the burden you carried from past trauma. That’s because, as with many adults who experienced child abuse or neglect, the complex trauma your ordeal had caused may have happened many years (even decades) ago, but it continued to wreak havoc in your life up into the present. Now, though, [...]

106, 2019

Adult Survivors of Child Abuse: Supporting Your Loved One’s Recovery

By |June 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s very hard knowing that your loved one was a victim of child abuse. Adult survivors of child abuse often still carry the burden of neglect and complex trauma that they experienced when young. Obviously, these issues would weigh heavily on anyone. And, of course, you want to give your loved one the support and care they need in this situation. Supporting a loved one as they work to recover from [...]

2705, 2019

When You Feel Like a Failure – 4 Constructive Ways to Manage Your ADHD

By |May 27th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

“How could you forget… again?!” “Is it really that hard to pay attention?” “You are such a failure.” These are harsh words toward anyone. But when you struggle to manage your ADHD, they are not uncommon to direct toward yourself as well. Feeling like a failure often goes hand-in-hand with ADHD. You always feel like you’re “dropping the ball,” so to speak. Plus, you get constant reinforcement from other people, even [...]

1905, 2019

How ADHD Damages Relationships with Friends, Family, and Spouse

By |May 19th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Much has been written about how ADHD is a beneficial and positive trait, and that’s true. Many people who are creative and successful have had ADHD. However, there is another side to ADHD—the side that damages relationships. Symptoms such as impulsivity, distractedness, and having a lot of energy can be draining on the friends, family, and spouse of a person with ADHD. This is especially true if the person hasn't yet been [...]

1305, 2019

Adult Survivors- What You Need To Know About Complex Trauma

By |May 13th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) can create lasting damage to your emotional and physical well being. Trauma is an event which frightens us so much that we fear death or grave injury.  Traumatic experience overwhelms our capacity to integrate and to cope. When the term complex trauma is used, it usually refers to conditions, or relationships that repeatedly terrify and overwhelm us. Complex Trauma Differs From PTSD CPTSD usually stems from painful, [...]

1105, 2019

Parenting a Child with ADHD: 5 Ways to be Supportive

By |May 11th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

You understand that parenting a child with ADHD has both its own challenges and rewards. It’s great seeing them absorbed in the things that they love to do. Their spontaneous energy and enthusiasm are just contagious. This is true not just for you, but also when you see them interacting with other children their own age. However, you also know that having ADHD isn’t easy, and that is a big reason [...]

605, 2019

7 Often Overlooked Signs of Depression

By |May 6th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

You’ve read enough blog posts and articles to know the common symptoms of depression. For instance, there’s the person that feels sad all the time. Or the one who has trouble feeling motivated to do the things they used to really enjoy. However, there are many overlooked signs of depression that are connected with the condition. Why do they get overlooked? Because these depression symptoms can get confused for other [...]

2904, 2019

ADHD Without Medication?

By |April 29th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

  Why Do Some Seek ADHD Treatment Without Medication? There are many reasons why you might be looking for ADHD treatment that goes beyond taking psychiatric drugs. Here are some of the reasons my clients have shared with me: Limited efficacy of ADHD drugs ADHD drugs wore off Disturbing and uncomfortable side effects of meds Worried about long term damaging effects of medicine on brain ADHD meds did not fix [...]

2804, 2019

When Depression Hits- Here Is What You Can Do

By |April 28th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

When depression hits, it can hit hard. It might arrive suddenly out of the blue, or it can slowly sneak up on you over days or weeks. One day you are feeling o.k., and then you notice that your mood has slipped. You might find yourself with: Low motivation Irritability Feelings of sadness, worthlessness, or hopelessness Sleep problems Poor concentration What should you do if you start to realize that [...]

2104, 2019

The Devastating Effects of Depression on Relationships: 5 Key Issues

By |April 21st, 2019|Categories: Depression|

The sadness and despair of depression can weigh on you like a heavy coat. In fact, your depression keeps you smothered. Yet, it can also act as a barrier toward others, and thus, have a tremendously devastating impact on your relationships. The hard part is that it’s difficult to connect the dots between how your depression impacts others in your life. This means that, most likely, your depression is damaging [...]

1504, 2019

Neurofeedback and Biofeedback- What’s The Difference?

By |April 15th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

What's The Difference Between Neurofeedback And Biofeedback. I recently talked with a client who spoke about his experience with neurofeedback and biofeedback. He told me he had previously done neurofeedback therapy. Once we started talking about his experience with it, I realized he was confused. He had actually done biofeedback. We are lucky. There are many forms of treatment available to us. The psychotherapy that is available goes way beyond [...]

1304, 2019

5 Signs It’s Time to Consider Getting Therapy for Depression

By |April 13th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

You know it’s time to do something. In fact, you’ve felt this way for a while. Yet, there was always something holding you back. However, now the signs of depression are clear and you realize you need professional help. Acknowledging that you need therapy for depression isn’t easy. It means admitting that things have gotten out of hand. Nobody likes the thought of that idea. In fact, they would rather bury themselves in [...]

1004, 2019

Neurofeedback For Kids-4 Reasons It’s Great For Child Therapy

By |April 10th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback For Kids?  Absolutely. You may have read an article or seen a news segment about brain training. Neurofeedback is a form of technology assisted therapy which teaches kids (and adults!) how to change the way their brains work.  It's a form of  EEG biofeedback therapy that has been around for decades As humans, many of the issues we struggle with start in our brain.  You know how we develop [...]

804, 2019

Anxiety and Childhood Trauma: Chronic Anxiety’s Early Life Roots

By |April 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It can be hard to understand why you have chronic anxiety or even trauma-induced anxiety. After all, you’ve felt this way for such a long time, as far back as you can remember. And this makes it difficult to understand and gain perspective on not only the source of your problem but also what to do about it. The key may be exploring early life trauma experiences. By studying your [...]

804, 2019

Anxiety Symptoms in Teens- Don’t Overlook These 5 Signs

By |April 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Anxiety Symptoms in Teens Can Be Different It's common enough for adults to have trouble recognizing their own struggle with anxiety. And it can be even more difficult to see when your teen is suffering. Anxiety symptoms in teens can be hard to read. How can you tell whether what you are seeing is just "typical teen behavior", or is a problem that needs some attention. Recently, "Karen" talked with [...]

104, 2019

The Body-Mind Connection: What Are the Effects of Anxiety on the Body?

By |April 1st, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

You thought you knew everything about anxiety. After all, you have to face it every single day of your life, right? There’s the constant worrying that’s always in the back of your head. Or the stress that you face when you experience a trigger. Sure, you've noticed that anxiety can make your heart beat faster or your breathing to be more labored. And that when you get stressed you usually begin to [...]

2903, 2019

Natural Treatments For Depression

By |March 29th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

Do Natural Treatments For Depression Exist? Yes Indeed! Are you struggling with depression? Turn on your T.V. You probably won't have to wait for more than a few moments before the next ad for a psychiatric drug appears. But if you are one of the many who worry about the risks of taking these drugs, you are not alone. Many people are wary of anti depressant drugs and would feel [...]

2803, 2019

Treatment for ADHD-What Actually Works?

By |March 28th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

"Treatment For ADHD is Essential." I said this recently to a father I work with, "Dan". He is a long term client, and a loving, hard working family man. About three months ago, his teen age son was diagnosed as having ADHD. Consequently, that news terrified him and worry has gripped him ever since. Dan worries that his son won't be okay. He feels guilty that he did not have [...]

2503, 2019

Telling the Difference Between Anxiety and ADHD – 4 Tips

By |March 25th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Anxiety and ADHD are two common issues that many people struggle with. Both make it difficult to navigate our modern world. For example, with ADHD, it can be hard to sit still in class or stay in front of your desk at work. Or, when you suffer from anxiety, there are many triggers that you must face daily. Sometimes it’s even possible to have both conditions at the same time. [...]

1803, 2019

Overcoming Anxiety: Yes, Even Chronic Anxiety Can Be Healed!

By |March 18th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

In over twenty years of practice, I'm happy to have helped many people  with overcoming anxiety-even when it's chronic been chronic. What's anxiety like for them? There’s the constant worrying and fear that dominates their lives. Alongside, this sits the uncomfortable physical anxiety symptoms. The struggle includes not just the issues that trigger the anxiety. It can even involve worrying about the anxiety itself! These anxiety sufferers feel stuck with [...]

1003, 2019

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: Why Consider It?

By |March 10th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You may have heard about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, also known as EMDR. Perhaps you've even thought that it sounds like a really interesting treatment method that seems like it has great potential. However, you may be wondering if it would actually work for you. So, when should you seriously consider EMDR treatment? Obviously, EMDR isn’t a “magic bullet” solution to every therapy problem. But it is very effective at [...]

403, 2019

Understanding Complex PTSD: What Is It? What Are the Signs?

By |March 4th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Understanding Complex PTSD starts with learning about a term that is gaining widespread recognition. Most people have at least heard of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It affects thousands and can be extremely debilitating. But complex PTSD (C-PTSD) isn’t as widely known yet. That’s why understanding it is incredibly important. The most essential part of understanding complex PTSD is learning how it differs from traditional PTSD. In order to do that, we [...]

2502, 2019

EMDR Therapy: Understanding the Connection Between PTSD and Chronic Pain Symptoms

By |February 25th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s been a long time since the accident. However you are still left with chronic pain in your neck and back. Whenever the pain spikes, it reminds you of that fateful day and how everything changed. Eventually, you had to leave your job because the chronic pain was too great, and now you sit at home by yourself. If you have PTSD and chronic pain, every day can feel like a [...]

2102, 2019

ADHD Treatment Options- Think “Skills Before Pills”

By |February 21st, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

ADHD Treatment Options Can Be Confusing If you are like many people with ADHD symptoms, you feel a little confused and overwhelmed with your ADHD Treatment options . Are ADHD Treatment Options Overwhelming You? What's the best way to make sustainable improvements in your life? Will psychiatric drugs fix you?  What type of ADHD treatment is best for you?  It's easy to have a ton of questions. But [...]

2002, 2019

EMDR For Anxiety: How Does It Help Provide Relief?

By |February 20th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Anxiety feels awful- doesn't it? Your stomach tightens into a bit of a knot and you don't know why. Your jaw clenches and your breath constricts. Sometimes you think there is nothing that is going to help- you will never be that calm, cool and collected person. If this sounds like you, EMDR for anxiety might just be the thing that will help you. Although anxiety makes you suffer, there [...]

1802, 2019

EMDR for PTSD and Trauma Symptoms: How Does It Work?

By |February 18th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

The car accident happened so long ago, but it feels as if it occurred just yesterday. You can still hear the screeching of the tires on the pavement and the crunching of the metal. When you go to a gas station, just the smell of the fuel vapors in the air brings you back to that terrible day. It’s often hard for you to concentrate and focus. You’ve even caught yourself getting [...]

1302, 2019

EMDR Psychotherapy- Expectations vs. Reality

By |February 13th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

EMDR psychotherapy has been around since the 1980's. During that time, there has been a fair amount of false and inaccurate information about it. What am I talking about? Below is a description of few of the common misunderstandings that I hear from clients, and sometimes from other therapists   EMDR Psychotherapy Is A Quick Fix Every few weeks, I receive a phone call from a potential EMDR psychotherapy client. [...]

902, 2019

What Is An EMDR Session Like?

By |February 9th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You've heard about EMDR. Perhaps you've had someone close tell you about their experience of EMDR sessions. But you wonder "What is an EMDR session like?" In this article, I'll describe to you the typical flow of  EMDR sessions. Your First EMDR Session The first time we meet, I will do my best to help you feel comfortable talking about personal things. I'l ask you questions to help me learn [...]

902, 2019

Is Depression in Seniors a Direct Result of Aging?

By |February 9th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

“Dad doesn’t seem like his usual self,” you say to yourself after your most recent visit with your father. He seemed more distant and lethargic. You remember when he enjoyed gardening and discussing the most recent book he had read. Now he just sits at home by the window. You think it might be depression, but you wonder: Is depression in seniors is a result of aging? The short answer to [...]

802, 2019

3 Important Tips From An Anxiety Therapist

By |February 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

As an anxiety therapist, I began helping clients over 20 years ago. During that time, I've seen a number of women and men make full recoveries. Sadly, I've also seen people struggle to get better. Today, a friend asked me for advice. He wanted to know what he should look for in his search to find someone to help with his anxiety.  Although he is an experienced therapy client, he [...]

702, 2019

Neurofeedback For Migraines? Does it work?

By |February 7th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback for Migraines?  Does it work? Many clients ask me if I ever do any neurofeedback training myself.  The answer is yes! Of course. I'm a big believer in practicing what I preach. So, it's not just my work with clients that has proven the effectiveness of neurofeedback to me. My own personal training has shown me the tremendous relief that neurofeedback for migraines can offer. Yesterday was a very [...]

402, 2019

How Anxiety in Senior Citizens Manifests Differently – Signs & Symptoms

By |February 4th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It’s well known that the population in many countries, including the United States, is getting older. With advancing age often come various physical and mental issues, which can cause an elderly person to become anxious. As the population ages, then, there is a greater chance that more people will suffer from anxiety. In contrast to younger adults, though, anxiety in senior citizens presents its own set of problems. It's important [...]

2701, 2019

Can a History of Trauma Lead to Relationship Problems? – How?

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

  Being in a loving, caring, and affirming relationship is a wonderful thing. You feel supported by your partner, and you know that their feelings are based on mutual respect. Yet, what happens if you're someone who has experienced trauma, even when very young? Can that lead to relationship problems later in life? Yes, a history of trauma in the past could cause problems in your present relationship. Consider the [...]

2701, 2019

Executive Functioning Problems in Young Adults

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

    Congratulations! Your young adult is now a college graduate. It’s been a long time coming. However, they have had lots of struggles just getting through school and even reaching college due to executive functioning problems. And now they're faced with a new challenge. Often, young adults who have executive functioning issues also have difficulty with stepping out into the adult world. And this “failure to launch” phenomenon can make it difficult [...]

2701, 2019

Neurofeedback for Chronic Pain – An Important Part of Your Pain Management

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

If you suffer from chronic pain, then you know the importance of having a pain management plan. It’s what keeps you functioning just so that you can get through your day. Yet, despite both your best efforts and those of your clinical team, chronic pain still persists. This can make it really hard for you to live your life. In fact, it may feel as if you must live with chronic [...]

2101, 2019

When You Struggle with Both Anxiety and Depression Symptoms—5 Ways to Cope

By |January 21st, 2019|Categories: Depression|

If you live with both anxiety and depression, then you know that you carry twice the burden. It’s almost as if one feeds into the other. Despite your best efforts, keeping both anxiety symptoms and depression symptoms at bay is taking up a lot of your energy. At the end of the day, you either feel exhausted or really stressed-out. Is there anything you can do? Consider five ways that you [...]

2101, 2019

Understanding the Effects of ADHD: 6 Ways It Harms Your Relationships

By |January 21st, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

“It feels hopeless, nobody understands me!” These may be your thoughts as once again you find your relationship in ashes. Everything seemed great at first. In fact, it even occurred to you that this person may be the person with whom you would spend the rest of your life. However, your partner just got tired of having to “deal” with your ADHD. Even though they loved your passion, energy, and [...]

2001, 2019

Anger Management Problems In Relationships

By |January 20th, 2019|Categories: Anger Management|

  You have had a few bad arguments...and those arguments went too far. On occasion, you have gotten yourself too worked up. Perhaps you have said and done things you regret. That's probably true of most of us. But looking forward, are you at risk of anger management problems in relationships? Red Flags For Anger Management Problems in Relationships In 1998 I began working to help women and men learn [...]

1401, 2019

Neurofeedback for Insomnia: How to Train Your Brain to Sleep

By |January 14th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

“Why can’t I sleep? I must be going crazy!”   Not getting a full night’s rest can be frustrating at the least and debilitating at its worst. No wonder many people who struggle with sleep problems are at their wit's end. Have you tried going to therapy for your sleep problems or worked to improve your sleep hygiene, yet, nothing improves? It could be that the solution is neurofeedback for insomnia. This form [...]

1401, 2019

ADHD or Executive Functioning: 3 Key Steps

By |January 14th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

You try hard. You really do. However, you still find your thoughts drifting out the window or you forget that you have to be at an appointment on time. It seems as if you are constantly in this thick cloud that keeps you from reaching your full potential. In fact, you know that you have ADHD or executive functioning problems. But knowing that is not enough to help you keep a [...]

701, 2019

How Early Life Trauma Can Lead to Chronic Anxiety Symptoms in Adults

By |January 7th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You can still remember how your parent yelled at you constantly when you very young. Every little thing you did seemed to set them off. You tried your best, but of course, you were only a child! Over time, you learned that you had to walk a very fine line in order to please your parent. This trauma stuck with you as you became an adult. And now you struggle with [...]

701, 2019

ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression—Often Related Conditions in Adults and Teens

By |January 7th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It’s hard having to face going to work or school every day. You never seem to be able to pay attention or stay on task. The work you do turn in is considered sloppy, incomplete, or just not good enough. You can feel your peers, supervisors, or teachers judging you. They are sending the message that you already know: you must be stupid. What other reason could there be? You try to [...]

3012, 2018

Neurofeedback For Anxiety- 3 Examples of How Neurofeedback Can Transform Anxiety

By |December 30th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

  Neurofeedback For Anxiety- It Might Be The Most Effective Approach For You. Have you been hearing a lot about neurofeedback lately? There has been a lot of buzz about neurofeedback. News sites publish articles about neurofeedback therapy being used to treat PTSD and aid recovery for soldiers with Traumatic Brain Injury. TV segments show stories about the relief that clients have gained from their ADHD and depression symptoms, Even [...]

2412, 2018

Neurofeedback for Peak Performance – How Does It Work?

By |December 24th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You want to operate at peak performance. After all, so many things in your life depend on you being on top of your game. At work, you need to stay sharp and focused to get your projects done. Maybe there’s a new position opening up, and you want to make sure that you are being considered. When you’re at home, you want to be there for your family. Most especially, you [...]

2212, 2018

Neurofeedback For ADHD- Does it Work?

By |December 22nd, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

    Congratulations. You have decided to do something about your ADHD. Looking around for some help, you have probably come across magazine articles, TV news stories, or internet stories on the benefits of neurofeedback for ADHD.                   For many clients, neurofeedback brain training for ADHD symptoms is a game changer. With Neurofeedback For ADHD, You’ve Got 3 Reasons To Be Excited [...]

1812, 2018

Anxiety Treatment: Essential and Commonly Ignored Components

By |December 18th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You've decided to get help and get anxiety treatment. That’s great! Anxiety Treatment- It'll Help You With Reducing Anxiety Symptoms and Improving the Quality of Your Life.   However, there are several components that are essential for treating anxiety, and reducing anxiety symptoms, that often are ignored. Not addressing these issues actually makes it more difficult for you to receive treatment and to find relief from anxiety. By educating yourself about [...]

1712, 2018

Struggling with Depressing Thoughts? – Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

By |December 17th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Our brains are incredible. Every day you have thousands of thoughts. This could range from planning for your child’s birthday party this weekend to completing a complex project at work. It’s amazing that we have this capacity for such high-level thinking. But sometimes your thoughts can be too much and really negative. In fact, depressing thoughts can make their way into your mind. This can cause you to eventually experience depression and struggle [...]

1112, 2018

Quick Guide To Executive Functioning Problems In Adults- What You Need To Know

By |December 11th, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

You may have heard or read about executive functioning in children.  But how much do you know about executive functioning problems in adults? What Exactly Is Executive Functioning? Executive functioning refers to a set of brain abilities that can help you to accomplish your goals. When developed, these capacities supply us with vital life skills. Below are some descriptions of some ways that I've seen executive functioning problems in adults [...]

1012, 2018

Overcoming Social Anxiety: Is It Possible? – 4 Vital Keys

By |December 10th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You know that you have social anxiety but are skeptical as to whether overcoming it is even possible. That’s understandable You may have tried before and it didn’t work. In fact, reading self-help books, participating in anxiety therapy, and trying to keep things under control were dead ends. You just didn’t see the change that you wanted and continued to feel anxious in social situations Now your social anxiety is [...]

312, 2018

Understanding Adult ADHD: Types, Causes, Symptoms

By |December 3rd, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

Understanding Adult ADHD isn’t easy. That's because commonly known symptoms of ADHD are most often associated with children, not adults. Oftentimes, the symptoms exhibited by adults are confused for other behaviors. Also, what causes ADHD for adults may be misunderstood, even by those who are struggling with the disorder themselves. And that can lead to a lot of problems for adults with ADHD, both in their professional and personal lives. Does [...]

2611, 2018

Neurofeedback Therapy: Why Do Some Choose This Modality Over Other Treatment Methods?

By |November 26th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback Therapy: Why Do Some Choose This Modality Over Other Treatment Methods?   When we need help with our mental health, there are many treatment options available.   Talk therapy and medication are traditionally two of the most popular tools out there. However, do they really work for everyone in finding relief from symptoms and making real change?   It turns out that some people choose a different path by [...]

2411, 2018

Neurofeedback For Depression

By |November 24th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback For Depression: 3 Reasons to Consider It Neurofeedback For Depression: Because It’s Natural. Like many, you want a natural alternative to psychiatric drugs. You want to feel your best, and you are health conscious. You care about your physical health and are wary of taking pills that might end up hurting your body. Neurofeedback for depression might very well provide you with the relief you seek.  Despite the common [...]

2311, 2018

The Emotional Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adults

By |November 23rd, 2018|Categories: Trauma|

Unfortunately, we know that for many children growing up is very difficult. Children can be exposed to traumatic events early in their lives. This could mean experiencing a loss, such as the death of someone close to them, or being displaced from their home. Trauma can also occur from having to cope with an illness or being exposed to violence. Whatever the reason, the impact of childhood trauma can continue far [...]

1911, 2018

PTSD and Trauma: A Pathway to Chronic Medical Issues

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Trauma|

PTSD and Trauma: A Pathway to Chronic Medical Issues   You just don’t understand what's going on. The pain is nearly constant, and it seems as if the medication doesn’t work as it should. At night you have trouble falling asleep and getting a full night’s rest. Plus, your stomach is always bothering you. Did you ever stop to consider that what your feeling could actually be connected to PTSD and trauma? [...]

1911, 2018

Depression & Gender: 5 Ways Depression Can Be Different for Men

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Depression In Men Typically, when you think of depression, what comes to mind?  Depression in men often looks, sounds and feels different than it does in women.  Usually, when you picture depression, it’s someone who is sitting alone or who feels sad. Maybe they are overwhelmed by feelings of guilt and have a very negative view of themselves.   Although this is how depression is typically seen, we are learning [...]

1911, 2018

Managing OCD Symptoms in Adults: 6 Practical Tips

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You know why you wash your hands all the time or do your little rituals.  It's one of the OCD symptoms in adults. It’s not that you like to do them, but you feel compelled to do so. OCD Symptoms In Adults Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) symptoms in adults can be exhausting and make it really hard to get through the day. And even though you know the symptoms [...]

1511, 2018

What Is Neurofeedback Training?

By |November 15th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback Therapy It is a drug free way to help you learn how to calm your emotions, reduce pain symptoms and stabilize your attention. What Is Neurofeedback? For decades, different forms of biofeedback have been used as to train patients to make physiological changes. It’s been an effective treatment for stress, depression, anxiety, pain, high blood pressure, migraines as well as a host of other mind/body conditions. With neurofeedback therapy, [...]

811, 2018

Depression Tips- 5 Ways To Get A Bit Of Relief

By |November 8th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Sometimes we struggle with a low mood, these depression tips can help provide some relief. Feeling Down? These Depression Tips Can Help Most people feel down and stuck sometimes…  procrastination, the lack of energy, low self esteem can all be signs of depression. There is help and hope.  You can feel good again! I help clients take the key steps that are vital for their recovery from depression. Call today [...]

111, 2018

What Can You Expect From Neurofeedback Training?

By |November 1st, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You are thinking about doing some neurofeedback EEG brainwave training. Perhaps you’ve read a bit about neurofeedback training. Or you have seen coverage about brain training in the media. But you still have some questions and wonder what it would be like to do neurofeedback as a form of therapy. Below, I’ll take you through a typical course of Neurofeedback training so that you can get a more clear sense [...]

111, 2018

Anger Management Tips For Couples

By |November 1st, 2018|Categories: Anger Management|

Anger Management Tips For Couples in San Francisco Bay Area The other day, someone asked me what I would advise couples who find themselves getting stuck in the same old argument. They asked me "Do you have any anger management tips for couples?" You are not unusual! Really! So many couples have difficulty dealing with anger effectively. In fact, if most people are open and honest about it, they would [...]

3110, 2018

Speak Out! We Can’t Hear You

By |October 31st, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

Why we stay silent…and how you can stop Have you ever had a relationship issue weighing on your mind? Have you ever had one that you just don’t bring up? Most people have. Recently we discussed this interesting topic in one of my weekly healing anger groups. I always find this to be a particularly juicy topic because I have noticed that people with chronic anger often have a very [...]

3010, 2018

How Can You Find The Best Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist?

By |October 30th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

How Can You Find The Best Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist? You’ve heard about how helpful Neurofeedback Therapy is. Now you are considering getting some neurofeedback training for yourself. But where to start? When you begin to research your options, it can be confusing. The field of neurofeedback is pretty diverse and there a many different approaches. But how do you find a good Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist? So How Do [...]

2210, 2018

Calming the Nervous System: Tips for Anxiety, Depression and Anger Management

By |October 22nd, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

Why? Scientific research on the brain tells us that the more you experience a mental/ emotional state, the more likely you are to experience that state. This is one of the reasons why people who do not seek treatment for Depression and Anxiety, tend to get worse over time. On a neurological level, the more often the brain fires in a certain pattern, the better it gets at firing that [...]

1510, 2018

How To Get The Most From Therapy- Part 2

By |October 15th, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

More ways you can get the most you can out of therapy… You have decided to invest your time and money. Here is how to make sure you get the best result you possibly can… First a question; what can get in the way? Ironically, what prevents you from getting the result you want, are the very thoughts, feelings and behaviors that get in their way in other places in [...]

1509, 2018

How To Get The Most From Therapy- Part 1

By |September 15th, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

What you need to know in order to really get what you want out of therapy One of the things that is particularly striking to me about being a therapist, is the number of people that don’t really know how to best take advantage of the service. It seems as if it’s easier for the average consumer to educate him or herself about how best to buy a cell phone, [...]

908, 2018

No One Wins The Blame Game

By |August 9th, 2018|Categories: Anger Management|

Today, during the middle of a busy day at my San Francisco counseling practice, I received a wonderful quote that I knew I just had to share with you. It was sent to me by a respected colleague and teacher of mine. As I read these few short sentences on my Blackberry, I was immediately struck by how directly the words applied to me and the people in my practice. [...]

1206, 2018

ADHD Treatment For Adults and Teens

By |June 12th, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

ADHD Treatment is more than medications. Are You An ADULT or Teen Struggling With ADHD?   With ADHD treatment, It’s possible to prevail over your ADHD. There is effective, natural ADHD help available...besides Medications. ADHD can hurt your education, derail your career and blow apart your relationships. You know what it’s like to suffer with ADHD symptoms... ADHD makes you: Chronically Procrastinate Miss important details Have to work harder to [...]

411, 2010

The Secret Roots of Irritation

By |November 4th, 2010|Categories: Anger Management|

Feeling too much frustration? Maybe you have one of the six most common co-factors. Did you know that there may be hidden co-cofactors that keep your anger burning quietly? If you have ever been camping, you know that there is a point each evening when it comes time to let the campfire die down so that everyone can go to sleep.  Maybe you have noticed that the fire doesn’t usually [...]

2610, 2010

Anger Management – Making it Work

By |October 26th, 2010|Categories: Anger Management|

This Article on anger management group therapy was written for and published in the Sept 2007 Newsletter of the San Francisco chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Why Many Anger Management Clients Don’t Get Better “I no longer refer anyone to anger management groups because they don’t work”. This intriguing comment was made by a seasoned clinician, someone for whom I have a great deal [...]

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