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1410, 2019

Nightmares and PTSD: When Past Trauma Follows You Into Your Sleep—5 Solutions

By |October 14th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Nightmares and PTSD. You had that dream again. All of a sudden you wake up with a start, dripping with sweat. For an instant, you’re not sure if you are still in the nightmare or if you are in the real world. Eventually, things start to settle, your breathing slows, and you realize that you are in your bedroom. Yet, it felt like what you were dreaming was so real. Nightmares due [...]

710, 2019

When Your Body Constantly Cries Out—Seeking EMDR for Chronic Pain Management

By |October 7th, 2019|Categories: Trauma, Uncategorized|

“It hurts! Make it stop!” Every moment of every day your body cries out. It’s telling you that something is terribly wrong and needs to be fixed. EMDR for chronic pain might be just the relief you are looking for. The way that your body cries this out is through chronic pain. Depending on your circumstance, that message is sent out through various parts of your body. For some, it’s [...]

2309, 2019

EMDR Or CBT? Which Is Better For PTSD?

By |September 23rd, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Do you suffer with PTSD, or trauma symptoms? If so, should you be seeking EMDR or CBT therapy? I wrote this blog post to help you decide. EMDR or CBT? Which is More Effective For PTSD? When it comes to PTSD therapy, there are a few main treatment approaches that are widely available. Many people have heard and read about both EMDR therapy and CBT therapy. But how are you [...]

2309, 2019

A Balanced Approach to ADHD Treatment for Children and Teens

By |September 23rd, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Millions of children and teens in the U.S. are diagnosed with ADHD. In fact, it’s become a very common diagnosis, and much has been written about the condition and how it affects kids. Certainly, having attention issues and being prone to distraction and impulsivity is problematic in our society. Dealing with these problems can make it really hard to be successful in school or work. Moreover, behavior that’s common with [...]

1609, 2019

The Advantages of EMDR in Trauma-Informed Care

By |September 16th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

If you are struggling with trauma, you want a treatment that will work. That's where Emdr in trauma-informed care comes in. It’s hard enough coping with the emotions and memories associated with the trauma that you experienced. And this is true whether those events occurred last week or even decades ago. Perhaps you’ve even given up hope that you could resolve your trauma. But you can, by participating in trauma-informed [...]

909, 2019

Battling Severe Depression: Is It Possible to Triumph Over the Darkness?

By |September 9th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

When you’re battling severe depression, it can be a long road towards recovering. You feel so alone and that nobody can possibly understand what you’re going through. It's like walking down a long, dark road by yourself. And the obstacles that you must face on this journey can be overwhelming. It’s not just the depression. There’s also shame and guilt, and even substance abuse issues, as you try to numb [...]

909, 2019

EMDR Therapist Answers Your FAQs

By |September 9th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

As an Emdr therapist, I get questions. Often questions about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) come from clients who have have heard or read about it's efficacy and want to know more. Probably the most common question about EMDR is the following: What Is EMDR Therapy And How Does It Work? EMDR is a psychotherapy modality that is integrative. It contains elements of treatment that exist in other approaches, [...]

109, 2019

Help for Chronic and Severe Anxiety: Treatment Options

By |September 1st, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Sometimes, the search for getting help with chronic or severe anxiety can be as nerve-wracking as the anxiety itself. So many questions and doubts can exist. Will therapy really work for me? Which treatment options will be the most effective? How will this be any different than my previous treatment experiences? After all, it’s very discouraging if you have already been to anxiety treatment before, and it didn’t work. However, [...]

109, 2019

How To Help Someone With Complex PTSD (CPTSD)

By |September 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It's awful to see someone you love suffer. You see how anxious and triggered they can get. Their mood swings. You see how troubled they become in intimate relationships. And you say to yourself "I wish I knew how to help someone with Complex PTSD". Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) is the result of surviving repeated abuse. Sadly, it often occurs at the hands of those who are supposed to love and [...]

3008, 2019

What Is PTSD- 6 Signs and Symptoms

By |August 30th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

What is PTSD? You hear about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in the news, in movies and on TV. But what is it really? And could you be suffering from it? PTSD affects both young and old people. It affects men and women. And it's fairly common. In fact 24.4 Million Americans suffer from the signs and symptoms of PTSD. That is 8% of our population. So if you think [...]

2708, 2019

Living With OCD- Tips For OCD Recovery

By |August 27th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

"I'm so OCD".  Joking about our own personal peccadillos, we sometimes toss this phrase around lightly. But for the 1 in 4o Americans who actually suffer from it, living with OCD, or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, can be pretty unfunny. Recovery from OCD is possible, though for many, it's not so easy. As a practicing therapist, I've been fortunate to help clients overcome OCD symptoms. And I also seen some people [...]

2708, 2019

Neurofeedback Treatment for Chronic Anxiety and Mood Disorders: How Effective Is It?

By |August 27th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You want to get better and not feel depressed and anxious anymore. And like many people you're concerned about the dangers of psychiatric drugs. It might be time to give serious consideration to neurofeedback for chronic anxiety Chronic anxiety and depression plague many people. And if you are like them, it’s been hard finding a treatment that really works. Therapy has helped, and you might take medication that’s been prescribed [...]

2508, 2019

When Stress Makes You Ill

By |August 25th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Medical issues can be complicated. And when health problems are chronic, there are often many strands to unravel. A common contributing factor in poor health is stress. How can you know when stress makes you ill? Stress Is Everywhere, And It's Increasing A little stress can be a good thing. If you want to strengthen your muscles. you do it by working out. You intentionally stress your body in order [...]

2008, 2019

Don’t Want To Overcome Depression? Here’s How Not To!

By |August 20th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

There are steps you can take to overcome depression and steps you can take which will keep you stuck. A How- To Article on How Not to Overcome Depression? Why would I do that? It feels awful to be depressed. Why wouldn't I write about how depression feels awful and what you can do to feel relief?  Well the reason I decided to write this is because sometimes it's very [...]

1908, 2019

Living with Anxiety: What to Do When You Feel Panicky – 5 Tips

By |August 19th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

When you're living with anxiety, you need multiple tools in your toolbox to deal with a panic attack. You can’t just rely on one trick. It's a good thing to have an idea of what to do when you feel panicky. After all, a panic attack could happen when you least expect it. It’s a lot harder to go for a walk to work off the anxiety when you’re stuck [...]

1308, 2019

Why Depression and Feeling Worthless Are So Closely Linked

By |August 13th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

The problem with depression isn’t just that you are feeling down or sad. It's that depression has the power to affect how you perceive yourself.  Depression and feeling worthless often go hand in hand. Depression changes your outlook. It alters how you interact with the world, and can actually cause you to redefine who you are as a person. This altered outlook is no longer based on uplifting beliefs about [...]

1108, 2019

Emdr vs. Neurofeedback- What Therapy Is Best?

By |August 11th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

"Can you compare EMDR vs Neurofeedback? Which is better for you? " Every couple of weeks, a new client asks me this question. Many of the patients who are referred to me are fairly educated about trauma therapy treatment options. They have heard or read about the effectiveness of both EMDR and Neurofeedback. But they are not sure which might be the best treatment approach for them. Below are some [...]

508, 2019

Complex PTSD and Dissociation: How the Mind Copes with Trauma

By |August 5th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Complex trauma can be an incredibly heavy burden to bear. It leaves emotional scars that still feel very raw, even years after the trauma occurred. The mind’s way of coping with such intense and repeated trauma is often to detach from what happened. This is called dissociation. And although it may be the innate way the mind deals with complex PTSD, that doesn’t mean it’s a healthy coping response. While the brain [...]

508, 2019

Trauma Treatment- Why You Might Need It and Not Know

By |August 5th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

"I had no idea I really needed trauma treatment. I wish I knew that 25 years ago." Angie, said this when we met for our closing trauma therapy session. But this is not the only time I've heard something like this. In fact, I've heard this many times before. Regularly, counseling clients tell me about the their history in therapy. Too often, they describe a course of therapy that fails [...]

2707, 2019

7 Important Symptoms of Childhood Trauma in Adults

By |July 27th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Symptoms of childhood trauma in adults might be holding you back.   What is Childhood Trauma? Almost no one has a perfect childhood...but some kids have it much worse than others. That's because some kids grow up in what I call  "high threat zones". They see and hear things that terrify them. They are small, they are confused and they often have no big person who can guide, protect or [...]

2207, 2019

Neurofeedback and Developmental Trauma Treatment: Making Recovery Possible

By |July 22nd, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Developmental trauma treatment is a clinical specialty-it's not practiced widely. Most therapists can probably help you with the effects of a "less than optimal" early life. But unless the therapist has specialized developmental trauma treatment training and experience, you are likely to spin your wheels in therapy. Sadly, that's a tale I've heard from patients time and time again throughout my career. Let's dive in. Typically, when you think of [...]

1807, 2019

Coping with Panic Attacks: 5 Effective Treatments Aside from Psychiatric Drugs

By |July 18th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Coping with panic attacks; it's easier said than done. Panic attacks can be a very scary and debilitating experience. And if you have had one, you might be constantly on alert, dreading the possibility of the next attack. When you are stuck in the middle of an attack, you often feel powerless to do anything about it. Many client have the told me of the terror they felt when they [...]

807, 2019

Why Use EMDR for PTSD and Complex Trauma Symptoms?

By |July 8th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PSTD) can have a ripple effect on your life.  Navigating PTSD and complex trauma symptoms requires effort and intention. This is often true even long after the trauma has occurred. However, the effects of that trauma continue to emerge through PTSD symptoms. If you have experienced complex trauma, which is trauma that occurs repeatedly, then certainly it will have a negative impact on your life. That is... unless [...]

107, 2019

Men and Trauma Treatment: How Trauma Symptoms Manifest Differently in Men

By |July 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s unfortunate that both men and women will experience trauma. But when it comes to men and trauma treatment, there is a bit of a difference. Whether it’s as a child or an adult, either gender could face trauma in their lifetimes (although, statistically, women are more like to go through a trauma than men). However, each will experience trauma symptoms differently. If you are a man who has seen [...]

107, 2019

Who Can Benefit From Neurofeedback? A Quick Guide For Healthcare Providers

By |July 1st, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Many types of clients can benefit from neurofeedback brain training. The other day, a therapist colleague reached out to me. She asked a question that I frequently get from other healthcare providers. Not only had she heard and read about neurofeedback, but she also heard reports from her patients about how neurofeedback helped them. and She wondered if she should refer her psychotherapy client to me for adjunct neurofeedback training."I [...]

2306, 2019

Adoption Trauma: What It Is and How It May Be Affecting You

By |June 23rd, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Being adopted isn't easy. It can be hard to form a connection with a new family. Even as a child grows up, perhaps they continue feeling out of place and never fully integrated into the household. Eventually, as an adult, they may also find it difficult to cope with significant life transitions—always feeling anxious and sensitive to potential threats. These are all issues that are related to what is called [...]

1606, 2019

What Are the Symptoms of Complex PTSD/Complex Trauma?

By |June 16th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

    Complex trauma is a condition that develops due to experiencing multiple and repeated traumas when you were young. The effect of this continued exposure to trauma as a child can have significant ramifications- even into adulthood. Being exposed to complex trauma causes changes in brain development. There are learned experiences that influence how you perceive and interact with the world as an adult. Thus, complex trauma often leads [...]

1006, 2019

Complex Trauma in Adults: How to Support Your Own Recovery

By |June 10th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

There’s that old saying: “Time heals all wounds.” Yet, you know better. In fact, in your case, time only added to the burden you carried from past trauma. That’s because, as with many adults who experienced child abuse or neglect, the complex trauma your ordeal had caused may have happened many years (even decades) ago, but it continued to wreak havoc in your life up into the present. Now, though, [...]

106, 2019

Adult Survivors of Child Abuse: Supporting Your Loved One’s Recovery

By |June 1st, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s very hard knowing that your loved one was a victim of child abuse. Adult survivors of child abuse often still carry the burden of neglect and complex trauma that they experienced when young. Obviously, these issues would weigh heavily on anyone. And, of course, you want to give your loved one the support and care they need in this situation. Supporting a loved one as they work to recover from [...]

2705, 2019

When You Feel Like a Failure – 4 Constructive Ways to Manage Your ADHD

By |May 27th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

“How could you forget… again?!” “Is it really that hard to pay attention?” “You are such a failure.” These are harsh words toward anyone. But when you struggle to manage your ADHD, they are not uncommon to direct toward yourself as well. Feeling like a failure often goes hand-in-hand with ADHD. You always feel like you’re “dropping the ball,” so to speak. Plus, you get constant reinforcement from other people, even [...]

1905, 2019

How ADHD Damages Relationships with Friends, Family, and Spouse

By |May 19th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Much has been written about how ADHD is a beneficial and positive trait, and that’s true. Many people who are creative and successful have had ADHD. However, there is another side to ADHD—the side that damages relationships. Symptoms such as impulsivity, distractedness, and having a lot of energy can be draining on the friends, family, and spouse of a person with ADHD. This is especially true if the person hasn't yet been [...]

1305, 2019

Adult Survivors- What You Need To Know About Complex Trauma

By |May 13th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) can create lasting damage to your emotional and physical well being. Trauma is an event which frightens us so much that we fear death or grave injury.  Traumatic experience overwhelms our capacity to integrate and to cope. When the term complex trauma is used, it usually refers to conditions, or relationships that repeatedly terrify and overwhelm us. Complex Trauma Differs From PTSD CPTSD usually stems from painful, [...]

1105, 2019

Parenting a Child with ADHD: 5 Ways to be Supportive

By |May 11th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

You understand that parenting a child with ADHD has both its own challenges and rewards. It’s great seeing them absorbed in the things that they love to do. Their spontaneous energy and enthusiasm are just contagious. This is true not just for you, but also when you see them interacting with other children their own age. However, you also know that having ADHD isn’t easy, and that is a big reason [...]

605, 2019

7 Often Overlooked Signs of Depression

By |May 6th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

You’ve read enough blog posts and articles to know the common symptoms of depression. For instance, there’s the person that feels sad all the time. Or the one who has trouble feeling motivated to do the things they used to really enjoy. However, there are many overlooked signs of depression that are connected with the condition. Why do they get overlooked? Because these depression symptoms can get confused for other [...]

2904, 2019

ADHD Without Medication?

By |April 29th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

  Why Do Some Seek ADHD Treatment Without Medication? There are many reasons why you might be looking for ADHD treatment that goes beyond taking psychiatric drugs. Here are some of the reasons my clients have shared with me: Limited efficacy of ADHD drugs ADHD drugs wore off Disturbing and uncomfortable side effects of meds Worried about long term damaging effects of medicine on brain ADHD meds did not fix [...]

2804, 2019

When Depression Hits- Here Is What You Can Do

By |April 28th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

When depression hits, it can hit hard. It might arrive suddenly out of the blue, or it can slowly sneak up on you over days or weeks. One day you are feeling o.k., and then you notice that your mood has slipped. You might find yourself with: Low motivation Irritability Feelings of sadness, worthlessness, or hopelessness Sleep problems Poor concentration What should you do if you start to realize that [...]

2104, 2019

The Devastating Effects of Depression on Relationships: 5 Key Issues

By |April 21st, 2019|Categories: Depression|

The sadness and despair of depression can weigh on you like a heavy coat. In fact, your depression keeps you smothered. Yet, it can also act as a barrier toward others, and thus, have a tremendously devastating impact on your relationships. The hard part is that it’s difficult to connect the dots between how your depression impacts others in your life. This means that, most likely, your depression is damaging [...]

1504, 2019

Neurofeedback and Biofeedback- What’s The Difference?

By |April 15th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

What's The Difference Between Neurofeedback And Biofeedback. I recently talked with a client who spoke about his experience with neurofeedback and biofeedback. He told me he had previously done neurofeedback therapy. Once we started talking about his experience with it, I realized he was confused. He had actually done biofeedback. We are lucky. There are many forms of treatment available to us. The psychotherapy that is available goes way beyond [...]

1304, 2019

5 Signs It’s Time to Consider Getting Therapy for Depression

By |April 13th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

You know it’s time to do something. In fact, you’ve felt this way for a while. Yet, there was always something holding you back. However, now the signs of depression are clear and you realize you need professional help. Acknowledging that you need therapy for depression isn’t easy. It means admitting that things have gotten out of hand. Nobody likes the thought of that idea. In fact, they would rather bury themselves in [...]

1004, 2019

Neurofeedback For Kids-4 Reasons It’s Great For Child Therapy

By |April 10th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback For Kids?  Absolutely. You may have read an article or seen a news segment about brain training. Neurofeedback is a form of technology assisted therapy which teaches kids (and adults!) how to change the way their brains work.  It's a form of  EEG biofeedback therapy that has been around for decades As humans, many of the issues we struggle with start in our brain.  You know how we develop [...]

804, 2019

Anxiety and Childhood Trauma: Why the Roots of Chronic Anxiety Often Go Back to Early Life Experiences

By |April 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It can be hard to understand why you have chronic anxiety or even trauma-induced anxiety. After all, you’ve felt this way for such a long time, as far back as you can remember. And this makes it difficult to understand and gain perspective on not only the source of your problem but also what to do about it. The key may be exploring early life trauma experiences. By studying your [...]

804, 2019

Anxiety Symptoms in Teens- Don’t Overlook These 5 Signs

By |April 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

Anxiety Symptoms in Teens Can Be Different It's common enough for adults to have trouble recognizing their own struggle with anxiety. And it can be even more difficult to see when your teen is suffering. Anxiety symptoms in teens can be hard to read. How can you tell whether what you are seeing is just "typical teen behavior", or is a problem that needs some attention. Recently, "Karen" talked with [...]

104, 2019

The Body-Mind Connection: What Are the Effects of Anxiety on the Body?

By |April 1st, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

You thought you knew everything about anxiety. After all, you have to face it every single day of your life, right? There’s the constant worrying that’s always in the back of your head. Or the stress that you face when you experience a trigger. Sure, you've noticed that anxiety can make your heart beat faster or your breathing to be more labored. And that when you get stressed you usually begin to [...]

2903, 2019

Natural Treatments For Depression

By |March 29th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

Do Natural Treatments For Depression Exist? Yes Indeed! Are you struggling with depression? Turn on your T.V. You probably won't have to wait for more than a few moments before the next ad for a psychiatric drug appears. But if you are one of the many who worry about the risks of taking these drugs, you are not alone. Many people are wary of anti depressant drugs and would feel [...]

2803, 2019

Treatment for ADHD-What Actually Works?

By |March 28th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

"Treatment For ADHD is Essential." I said this recently to a father I work with, "Dan". He is a long term client, and a loving, hard working family man. About three months ago, his teen age son was diagnosed as having ADHD. Consequently, that news terrified him and worry has gripped him ever since. Dan worries that his son won't be okay. He feels guilty that he did not have [...]

2503, 2019

Telling the Difference Between Anxiety and ADHD – 4 Tips

By |March 25th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

Anxiety and ADHD are two common issues that many people struggle with. Both make it difficult to navigate our modern world. For example, with ADHD, it can be hard to sit still in class or stay in front of your desk at work. Or, when you suffer from anxiety, there are many triggers that you must face daily. Sometimes it’s even possible to have both conditions at the same time. Knowing [...]

1803, 2019

Overcoming Anxiety: Yes, Even Chronic Anxiety Can Be Healed!

By |March 18th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

In over twenty years of practice, I'm happy to have helped many people  with overcoming anxiety-even when it's chronic been chronic. What's anxiety like for them? There’s the constant worrying and fear that dominates their lives. Alongside, this sits the uncomfortable physical anxiety symptoms. The struggle includes not just the issues that trigger the anxiety. It can even involve worrying about the anxiety itself! These anxiety sufferers feel stuck with [...]

1003, 2019

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing: When Should You Seriously Consider It?

By |March 10th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You may have heard about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, also known as EMDR. Perhaps you've even thought that it sounds like a really interesting treatment method that seems like it has great potential. However, you may be wondering if it would actually work for you. So, when should you seriously consider EMDR treatment? Obviously, EMDR isn’t a “magic bullet” solution to every therapy problem. But it is very effective at [...]

403, 2019

Understanding Complex PTSD: What Is It? What Are the Signs?

By |March 4th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Understanding Complex PTSD starts with learning about a term that is gaining widespread recognition. Most people have at least heard of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It affects thousands and can be extremely debilitating. But complex PTSD (C-PTSD) isn’t as widely known yet. That’s why understanding it is incredibly important. The most essential part of understanding complex PTSD is learning how it differs from traditional PTSD. In order to do that, we [...]

2502, 2019

EMDR Therapy: Understanding the Connection Between PTSD and Chronic Pain Symptoms

By |February 25th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

It’s been a long time since the accident. However you are still left with chronic pain in your neck and back. Whenever the pain spikes, it reminds you of that fateful day and how everything changed. Eventually, you had to leave your job because the chronic pain was too great, and now you sit at home by yourself. If you have PTSD and chronic pain, every day can feel like a [...]

2102, 2019

ADHD Treatment Options- Think “Skills Before Pills”

By |February 21st, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

ADHD Treatment Options Can Be Confusing If you are like many people with ADHD symptoms, you feel a little confused and overwhelmed with your ADHD Treatment options . Are ADHD Treatment Options Overwhelming You? What's the best way to make sustainable improvements in your life? Will psychiatric drugs fix you?  What type of ADHD treatment is best for you?  It's easy to have a ton of questions. But [...]

2002, 2019

EMDR For Anxiety: How Does It Help Provide Relief?

By |February 20th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

Anxiety feels awful- doesn't it? Your stomach tightens into a bit of a knot and you don't know why. Your jaw clenches and your breath constricts. Sometimes you think there is nothing that is going to help- you will never be that calm, cool and collected person. If this sounds like you, EMDR for anxiety might just be the thing that will help you. Although anxiety makes you suffer, there [...]

1802, 2019

EMDR for PTSD and Trauma Symptoms: How Does It Work?

By |February 18th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

The car accident happened so long ago, but it feels as if it occurred just yesterday. You can still hear the screeching of the tires on the pavement and the crunching of the metal. When you go to a gas station, just the smell of the fuel vapors in the air brings you back to that terrible day. It’s often hard for you to concentrate and focus. You’ve even caught yourself getting [...]

1302, 2019

EMDR Psychotherapy- Expectations vs. Reality

By |February 13th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

EMDR psychotherapy has been around since the 1980's. During that time, there has been a fair amount of false and inaccurate information about it. What am I talking about? Below is a description of few of the common misunderstandings that I hear from clients, and sometimes from other therapists   EMDR Psychotherapy Is A Quick Fix Every few weeks, I receive a phone call from a potential EMDR psychotherapy client. [...]

902, 2019

What Is An EMDR Session Like?

By |February 9th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You've heard about EMDR. Perhaps you've had someone close tell you about their experience of EMDR sessions. But you wonder "What is an EMDR session like?" In this article, I'll describe to you the typical flow of  EMDR sessions. Your First EMDR Session The first time we meet, I will do my best to help you feel comfortable talking about personal things. I'l ask you questions to help me learn [...]

902, 2019

Is Depression in Seniors a Direct Result of Aging?

By |February 9th, 2019|Categories: Depression|

“Dad doesn’t seem like his usual self,” you say to yourself after your most recent visit with your father. He seemed more distant and lethargic. You remember when he enjoyed gardening and discussing the most recent book he had read. Now he just sits at home by the window. You think it might be depression, but you wonder: Is depression in seniors is a result of aging? The short answer to [...]

802, 2019

3 Important Tips From An Anxiety Therapist

By |February 8th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

As an anxiety therapist, I began helping clients over 20 years ago. During that time, I've seen a number of women and men make full recoveries. Sadly, I've also seen people struggle to get better. Today, a friend asked me for advice. He wanted to know what he should look for in his search to find someone to help with his anxiety.  Although he is an experienced therapy client, he [...]

702, 2019

Neurofeedback For Migraines? Does it work?

By |February 7th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback for Migraines?  Does it work? Many clients ask me if I ever do any neurofeedback training myself.  The answer is yes! Of course. I'm a big believer in practicing what I preach. So, it's not just my work with clients that has proven the effectiveness of neurofeedback to me. My own personal training has shown me the tremendous relief that neurofeedback for migraines can offer. Yesterday was a very [...]

402, 2019

How Anxiety in Senior Citizens Manifests Differently – Signs & Symptoms

By |February 4th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It’s well known that the population in many countries, including the United States, is getting older. With advancing age often come various physical and mental issues, which can cause an elderly person to become anxious. As the population ages, then, there is a greater chance that more people will suffer from anxiety. In contrast to younger adults, though, anxiety in senior citizens presents its own set of problems. It's important [...]

2701, 2019

Can a History of Trauma Lead to Relationship Problems? – How?

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

  Being in a loving, caring, and affirming relationship is a wonderful thing. You feel supported by your partner, and you know that their feelings are based on mutual respect. Yet, what happens if you're someone who has experienced trauma, even when very young? Can that lead to relationship problems later in life? Yes, a history of trauma in the past could cause problems in your present relationship. Consider the [...]

2701, 2019

Failure to Launch: The Difficulties of Young Adults with Executive Functioning Problems

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

  Congratulations! Your young adult is now a college graduate. It’s been a long time coming. However, they have had lots of struggles just getting through school and even reaching college due to executive functioning problems. And now they're faced with a new challenge. Often, young adults who have executive functioning issues also have difficulty with stepping out into the adult world. And this “failure to launch” phenomenon can make it difficult for [...]

2701, 2019

Neurofeedback for Chronic Pain – An Important Part of Your Pain Management

By |January 27th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

If you suffer from chronic pain, then you know the importance of having a pain management plan. It’s what keeps you functioning just so that you can get through your day. Yet, despite both your best efforts and those of your clinical team, chronic pain still persists. This can make it really hard for you to live your life. In fact, it may feel as if you must live with chronic [...]

2101, 2019

When You Struggle with Both Anxiety and Depression Symptoms—5 Ways to Cope

By |January 21st, 2019|Categories: Depression|

If you live with both anxiety and depression, then you know that you carry twice the burden. It’s almost as if one feeds into the other. Despite your best efforts, keeping both anxiety symptoms and depression symptoms at bay is taking up a lot of your energy. At the end of the day, you either feel exhausted or really stressed-out. Is there anything you can do? Consider five ways that you [...]

2101, 2019

Understanding the Effects of ADHD: 6 Ways It Harms Your Relationships

By |January 21st, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

“It feels hopeless, nobody understands me!” These may be your thoughts as once again you find your relationship in ashes. Everything seemed great at first. In fact, it even occurred to you that this person may be the person with whom you would spend the rest of your life. However, your partner just got tired of having to “deal” with your ADHD. Even though they loved your passion, energy, and [...]

2001, 2019

Anger Management Problems In Relationships

By |January 20th, 2019|Categories: Anger Management|

  You have had a few bad arguments...and those arguments went too far. On occasion, you have gotten yourself too worked up. Perhaps you have said and done things you regret. That's probably true of most of us. But looking forward, are you at risk of anger management problems in relationships? Red Flags For Anger Management Problems in Relationships In 1998 I began working to help women and men learn [...]

1401, 2019

Neurofeedback for Insomnia: How to Train Your Brain to Sleep

By |January 14th, 2019|Categories: Neurofeedback|

“Why can’t I sleep? I must be going crazy!”   Not getting a full night’s rest can be frustrating at the least and debilitating at its worst. No wonder many people who struggle with sleep problems are at their wit's end. Have you tried going to therapy for your sleep problems or worked to improve your sleep hygiene, yet, nothing improves? It could be that the solution is neurofeedback for insomnia. This form [...]

1401, 2019

3 Steps for Reaching Your Potential as an Adult with ADHD or Executive Functioning Problems

By |January 14th, 2019|Categories: ADHD|

You try hard. You really do. However, you still find your thoughts drifting out the window or you forget that you have to be at an appointment on time. It seems as if you are constantly in this thick cloud that keeps you from reaching your full potential. In fact, you know that you have ADHD or executive functioning problems. But knowing that is not enough to help you keep a [...]

701, 2019

How Early Life Trauma Can Lead to Chronic Anxiety Symptoms in Adults

By |January 7th, 2019|Categories: Trauma|

You can still remember how your parent yelled at you constantly when you very young. Every little thing you did seemed to set them off. You tried your best, but of course, you were only a child! Over time, you learned that you had to walk a very fine line in order to please your parent. This trauma stuck with you as you became an adult. And now you struggle with [...]

701, 2019

ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression—Often Related Conditions in Adults and Teens

By |January 7th, 2019|Categories: Anxiety|

It’s hard having to face going to work or school every day. You never seem to be able to pay attention or stay on task. The work you do turn in is considered sloppy, incomplete, or just not good enough. You can feel your peers, supervisors, or teachers judging you. They are sending the message that you already know: you must be stupid. What other reason could there be? You try to [...]

3012, 2018

Neurofeedback For Anxiety- 3 Examples of How Neurofeedback Can Transform Anxiety

By |December 30th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

  Neurofeedback For Anxiety- It Might Be The Most Effective Approach For You. Have you been hearing a lot about neurofeedback lately? There has been a lot of buzz about neurofeedback. News sites publish articles about neurofeedback therapy being used to treat PTSD and aid recovery for soldiers with Traumatic Brain Injury. TV segments show stories about the relief that clients have gained from their ADHD and depression symptoms, Even [...]

2412, 2018

Neurofeedback for Peak Performance – How Does It Work?

By |December 24th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You want to operate at peak performance. After all, so many things in your life depend on you being on top of your game. At work, you need to stay sharp and focused to get your projects done. Maybe there’s a new position opening up, and you want to make sure that you are being considered. When you’re at home, you want to be there for your family. Most especially, you [...]

2212, 2018

Neurofeedback For ADHD- Does it Work?

By |December 22nd, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

    Congratulations. You have decided to do something about your ADHD. Looking around for some help, you have probably come across magazine articles, TV news stories, or internet stories on the benefits of neurofeedback for ADHD.                   For many clients, neurofeedback brain training for ADHD symptoms is a game changer. With Neurofeedback For ADHD, You’ve Got 3 Reasons To Be Excited [...]

1812, 2018

Anxiety Treatment: Essential and Commonly Ignored Components

By |December 18th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You’ve decided to get help and get anxiety treatment.   That’s great!   Anxiety Treatment- It'll Help You With Reducing Anxiety Symptoms and Improving the Quality of Your Life.   However, there are several components that are essential for treating anxiety, and reducing anxiety symptoms, that often are ignored. Not addressing these issues actually makes it more difficult for you to receive treatment and to find relief from anxiety.   [...]

1712, 2018

Struggling with Depressing Thoughts? – Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

By |December 17th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Our brains are incredible. Every day you have thousands of thoughts. This could range from planning for your child’s birthday party this weekend to completing a complex project at work. It’s amazing that we have this capacity for such high-level thinking. But sometimes your thoughts can be too much and really negative. In fact, depressing thoughts can make their way into your mind. This can cause you to eventually experience depression and struggle [...]

1112, 2018

Quick Guide To Executive Functioning Problems In Adults- What You Need To Know

By |December 11th, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

You may have heard or read about executive functioning in children.  But how much do you know about executive functioning problems in adults? What Exactly Is Executive Functioning? Executive functioning refers to a set of brain abilities that can help you to accomplish your goals. When developed, these capacities supply us with vital life skills. Below are some descriptions of some ways that I've seen executive functioning problems in adults [...]

1012, 2018

Overcoming Social Anxiety: Is It Possible? – 4 Vital Keys

By |December 10th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You know that you have social anxiety but are skeptical as to whether overcoming it is even possible. That’s understandable You may have tried before and it didn’t work. In fact, reading self-help books, participating in anxiety therapy, and trying to keep things under control were dead ends. You just didn’t see the change that you wanted and continued to feel anxious in social situations Now your social anxiety is [...]

312, 2018

Understanding Adult ADHD: Types, Causes, Symptoms

By |December 3rd, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

Understanding Adult ADHD isn’t easy. That's because commonly known symptoms of ADHD are most often associated with children, not adults. Oftentimes, the symptoms exhibited by adults are confused for other behaviors. Also, what causes ADHD for adults may be misunderstood, even by those who are struggling with the disorder themselves. And that can lead to a lot of problems for adults with ADHD, both in their professional and personal lives. Does [...]

2611, 2018

Neurofeedback Therapy: Why Do Some Choose This Modality Over Other Treatment Methods?

By |November 26th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback Therapy: Why Do Some Choose This Modality Over Other Treatment Methods?   When we need help with our mental health, there are many treatment options available.   Talk therapy and medication are traditionally two of the most popular tools out there. However, do they really work for everyone in finding relief from symptoms and making real change?   It turns out that some people choose a different path by [...]

2411, 2018

Neurofeedback For Depression

By |November 24th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback For Depression: 3 Reasons to Consider It Neurofeedback For Depression: Because It’s Natural. Like many, you want a natural alternative to psychiatric drugs. You want to feel your best, and you are health conscious. You care about your physical health and are wary of taking pills that might end up hurting your body. Neurofeedback for depression might very well provide you with the relief you seek.    Despite the [...]

2311, 2018

The Emotional Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adults

By |November 23rd, 2018|Categories: Trauma|

Unfortunately, we know that for many children growing up is very difficult. Children can be exposed to traumatic events early in their lives. This could mean experiencing a loss, such as the death of someone close to them, or being displaced from their home. Trauma can also occur from having to cope with an illness or being exposed to violence. Whatever the reason, the impact of childhood trauma can continue far [...]

1911, 2018

PTSD and Trauma: A Pathway to Chronic Medical Issues

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Trauma|

PTSD and Trauma: A Pathway to Chronic Medical Issues   You just don’t understand what's going on. The pain is nearly constant, and it seems as if the medication doesn’t work as it should. At night you have trouble falling asleep and getting a full night’s rest. Plus, your stomach is always bothering you. Did you ever stop to consider that what your feeling could actually be connected to PTSD and trauma? [...]

1911, 2018

Depression & Gender: 5 Ways Depression Can Be Different for Men

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Depression In Men Typically, when you think of depression, what comes to mind?  Depression in men often looks, sounds and feels different than it does in women.  Usually, when you picture depression, it’s someone who is sitting alone or who feels sad. Maybe they are overwhelmed by feelings of guilt and have a very negative view of themselves.   Although this is how depression is typically seen, we are learning [...]

1911, 2018

Managing OCD Symptoms in Adults: 6 Practical Tips

By |November 19th, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

You know why you wash your hands all the time or do your little rituals.  It's one of the OCD symptoms in adults. It’s not that you like to do them, but you feel compelled to do so. OCD Symptoms In Adults Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) symptoms in adults can be exhausting and make it really hard to get through the day. And even though you know the symptoms [...]

1511, 2018

What Is Neurofeedback Training?

By |November 15th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

Neurofeedback Therapy It is a drug free way to help you learn how to calm your emotions, reduce pain symptoms and stabilize your attention. What Is Neurofeedback? For decades, different forms of biofeedback have been used as to train patients to make physiological changes. It’s been an effective treatment for stress, depression, anxiety, pain, high blood pressure, migraines as well as a host of other mind/body conditions. With neurofeedback therapy, [...]

811, 2018

Depression Tips- 5 Ways To Get A Bit Of Relief

By |November 8th, 2018|Categories: Depression|

Sometimes we struggle with a low mood, these depression tips can help provide some relief. Feeling Down? These Depression Tips Can Help Most people feel down and stuck sometimes…  procrastination, the lack of energy, low self esteem can all be signs of depression. There is help and hope.  You can feel good again! I help clients take the key steps that are vital for their recovery from depression. Call today [...]

111, 2018

What Can You Expect From Neurofeedback Training?

By |November 1st, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

You are thinking about doing some neurofeedback EEG brainwave training. Perhaps you’ve read a bit about neurofeedback training. Or you have seen coverage about brain training in the media. But you still have some questions and wonder what it would be like to do neurofeedback as a form of therapy. Below, I’ll take you through a typical course of Neurofeedback training so that you can get a more clear sense [...]

111, 2018

Anger Management Tips For Couples

By |November 1st, 2018|Categories: Anger Management|

Anger Management Tips For Couples in San Francisco Bay Area The other day, someone asked me what I would advise couples who find themselves getting stuck in the same old argument. They asked me "Do you have any anger management tips for couples?" You are not unusual! Really! So many couples have difficulty dealing with anger effectively. In fact, if most people are open and honest about it, they would [...]

3110, 2018

Speak Out! We Can’t Hear You

By |October 31st, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

Why we stay silent…and how you can stop Have you ever had a relationship issue weighing on your mind? Have you ever had one that you just don’t bring up? Most people have. Recently we discussed this interesting topic in one of my weekly healing anger groups. I always find this to be a particularly juicy topic because I have noticed that people with chronic anger often have a very [...]

3010, 2018

How Can You Find The Best Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist?

By |October 30th, 2018|Categories: Neurofeedback|

How Can You Find The Best Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist? You’ve heard about how helpful Neurofeedback Therapy is. Now you are considering getting some neurofeedback training for yourself. But where to start? When you begin to research your options, it can be confusing. The field of neurofeedback is pretty diverse and there a many different approaches. But how do you find a good Bay Area Neurofeedback Therapist? So How Do [...]

2210, 2018

Calming the Nervous System: Tips for Anxiety, Depression and Anger Management

By |October 22nd, 2018|Categories: Anxiety|

Why? Scientific research on the brain tells us that the more you experience a mental/ emotional state, the more likely you are to experience that state. This is one of the reasons why people who do not seek treatment for Depression and Anxiety, tend to get worse over time. On a neurological level, the more often the brain fires in a certain pattern, the better it gets at firing that [...]

1510, 2018

How To Get The Most From Therapy- Part 2

By |October 15th, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

More ways you can get the most you can out of therapy… You have decided to invest your time and money. Here is how to make sure you get the best result you possibly can… First a question; what can get in the way? Ironically, what prevents you from getting the result you want, are the very thoughts, feelings and behaviors that get in their way in other places in [...]

1509, 2018

How To Get The Most From Therapy- Part 1

By |September 15th, 2018|Categories: Therapy|

What you need to know in order to really get what you want out of therapy One of the things that is particularly striking to me about being a therapist, is the number of people that don’t really know how to best take advantage of the service. It seems as if it’s easier for the average consumer to educate him or herself about how best to buy a cell phone, [...]

908, 2018

No One Wins The Blame Game

By |August 9th, 2018|Categories: Anger Management|

Today, during the middle of a busy day at my San Francisco counseling practice, I received a wonderful quote that I knew I just had to share with you. It was sent to me by a respected colleague and teacher of mine. As I read these few short sentences on my Blackberry, I was immediately struck by how directly the words applied to me and the people in my practice. [...]

1206, 2018

ADHD Treatment For Adults and Teens

By |June 12th, 2018|Categories: ADHD|

ADHD Treatment is more than medications. Are You An ADULT or Teen Struggling With ADHD?   With ADHD treatment, It’s possible to prevail over your ADHD. There is effective, natural ADHD help available...besides Medications. ADHD can hurt your education, derail your career and blow apart your relationships. You know what it’s like to suffer with ADHD symptoms... ADHD makes you: Chronically Procrastinate Miss important details Have to work harder to [...]

411, 2010

The Secret Roots of Irritation

By |November 4th, 2010|Categories: Anger Management|

Feeling too much frustration? Maybe you have one of the six most common co-factors. Did you know that there may be hidden co-cofactors that keep your anger burning quietly? If you have ever been camping, you know that there is a point each evening when it comes time to let the campfire die down so that everyone can go to sleep.  Maybe you have noticed that the fire doesn’t usually [...]

2610, 2010

Anger Management – Making it Work

By |October 26th, 2010|Categories: Anger Management|

This Article on anger management group therapy was written for and published in the Sept 2007 Newsletter of the San Francisco chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Why Many Anger Management Clients Don’t Get Better “I no longer refer anyone to anger management groups because they don’t work”. This intriguing comment was made by a seasoned clinician, someone for whom I have a great deal of [...]