A DistinctiveThree Stage Anger Management Approach:
Our anger management skills groups are designed to fully address your anger habit. To get a better sense of our in depth solution read through some sample topic from our curriculum.
Stage One- Stabilization. We focus on practical methods to help you get your anger under control. We’ll work to immediately stop the damage that anger is causing. You’ll learn how to recognize and master your body’s anger response and utilize tools to help you regulate your anger. This prepares you to do deeper inner healing that takes place in stage two.
Skills Modules Taught Which Cover Stage One.
- Basic Practical Neuroscience To Help Calm Your Angry Brain and Nervous System
- Guided mindfulness exercises
- Practical tools to calm your emotions
- Tools to help you complete the de-escalation of conflict phase of your relatationship
- Skills for effective communication
- The cycle of invalidation and escalation which traps some couples
- Reducing conflict through empathy
- Handling judgement and criticism
- The rumination problem and it’s role in maintaining conflict
- The “Couples Downward Spiral” and how to break free from it
- Anger Relapse Signs: the most common ones and the most dangerous ones for you
- Why cultivating mindful dual awareness is “the necessary first step” for permanent long term transformation of your anger
Stage Two- Healing the roots. This stage is necessary for permanent change. Your anger is fueled by something besides your present day relationship frustrations and life stresses. For most people, anger is an old response that was learned in early family relationships. It’s a kind of emotional (body-mind) habit and it arises alongside other common anger co-factors like:
- trauma history
- emotional isolation
- growing up around others who were angry, scary,withdrawn or absent.
Skills Modules Taught Which Cover Stage Two:
- Uncovering the hidden function of your anger
- The mindset that keeps you angry
- How to articulate your “anger narrative” and why it’s vital to do so.
- Identifying and overcoming your personal “anger recovery interfering beliefs”
- Unearthing the hidden beliefs about yourself that fuel your anger
- Your attachment style and how it shapes your anger style
- From Unconscious Habitual Boundaries to Consciously Chosen Boundaries
In this stage or our work we change your need for habitual anger by helping you to address what happened to you and heal how it shaped you emotionally. We all carry emotional road maps that tell us who we are and what to expect in relationships. At this stage in our work, we discover and heal them.
Stage Three-Thriving and building a new life. At this stage of our work, we focus on helping you fully reconnect with yourself and others. You build healthy, supportive, enjoyable relationships and take steps to repair some of the old ones. Your new relationships are built on new models of yourself and other people.
Skills Modules Taught Which Cover Stage Three:
- Genuine Forgiveness- What it is, what it’s not and how to attain it
- Practices for cultivating compassion and empathy
- Parenting and leadership skills
“Until you know what you are doing, you can’t do what you want”. Moshe Feldenkrais