Anger Managment

Determined to Overcome and Heal Your Anger?

I’m Michael G. Quirke, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. For the past fourteen years, I’ve helped over 3000 women and men manage and heal their anger. I’ve done that through my groups, workshops and my private counseling sessions with individuals and couples.  

My approach to anger management counseling is two pronged: 

  • First– we’ll focus on managing your anger and getting it under your control.
  • Second– we’ll heal it’s roots and clear up any of the most common co-factors. These are things like anxiety, depression, relationship conflict/disconnection, trauma symptoms and intimacy issues. 

I work with people who are committed to making their lives as positive and fulfilling as possible.

In the early stages of counseling, I meet with clients a minimum of once – sometimes twice – per week to accelerate the recovery process. During our initial sessions we will begin to map out the road to the positive results you’re seeking. 

Results Oriented Anger Management Counseling and Psychotherapy 

Are you committed to achieving your personal goals? Because I have a goal oriented approach, I don’t work with clients session by session, but rather until you have achieved your goals. My practice is not designed to be a band aid approach that just gets you out of a crisis. It’s designed to do a thorough and complete job of helping you heal your anger. 

Many people can achieve their initial counseling goals within 8-12 months of weekly sessions. 

After that time, you may choose to meet bi-weekly, monthly, or as needed, to help you maintain your gains.

Here’s how we’ll work together to get your life moving in the direction you want: 

  • First, we will identify and clarify the personal or emotional challenges you are currently facing
  • Second, we will figure out what you want your life to look like, so you can feel more fulfilled and at peace
  • Third, we will determine your specific counseling goals – the results you want to see happen to achieve the psychological the well being you are seeking
  • Finally, we work together – weekly – until you achieve your goals

 

Services available in Person, by Phone or Online

 

 

Customized, Collaborative and Results-Oriented

 

My counseling approach draws from a variety of time-tested therapeutic methods, combined with practical solutions, to help you feel your best in the shortest time possible. I approach counseling holistically, meaning that a healthy mind is supported by a healthy body, and vice versa. So physical health care strategies are sometimes incorporated into the counseling. The key features of my counseling approach are also some of the greatest sources of benefits to you:

 

Customized: every person or situation is unique, I take a ‘tailor made’ approach to each individual client, couple or family, based on your particular concerns, problems, needs, and personality.

Collaborative: Research consistently shows that the most important factor in counseling, psychotherapy or coaching is our relationship. That means I rely on your active input and collaboration in our work. Effective therapy is team effort.

Results-Oriented: focused on reducing anger and healing its roots

Body Centered– helps calm the central nervous system, which is integral in reducing anger, anxiety, and symptoms of trauma . Guided relaxation, abdominal breathing, clinical hypnosis, mindfulness of the body, and meditation are some of the techniques used to facilitate this process.

Coaching: Where appropriate, I use a more directive approach, and will guide you to make action plans and take concrete steps in putting these plans into place. For example, figuring out how to take action to support children, parents, or yourself.

Who I Work With:

My practice is specifically designed to help motivated women and men achieve their goal of having peaceful, loving relationships and fulfilling lives.

Clients make a weekly commitment to achieving their goals through a thorough, skills based and depth oriented approach to healing. That means we don’t schedule session by session. We meet weekly to help you move you closer to your goals.

Three Stage Approach:

Stage One- Stabilization. We focus on practical methods to help you get your anger under control. We’ll work to immediately stop the damage that anger is causing. You’ll learn how to recognize and master your body’s anger response and utilize tools to help you regulate your anger. This prepares you to do deeper inner healing that takes place in stage two.

 

Stage Two- Healing the roots. This stage is necessary for permanent change. Your anger is fueled by something besides your present day relationship frustrations and life stresses. For most people, anger is an old response that was learned in early family relationships. It’s a kind of emotional (body-mind) habit and it arises alongside other common anger co-factors like:

  • depression,
  • trauma history
  • emotional isolation
  • growing up around others who were angry, scary,withdrawn or absent.

 

In this stage or our work we change your need for habitual anger by helping you to address what happened to you and heal how it shaped you emotionally. We all carry emotional road maps that tell us who we are and what to expect in relationships. At this stage in our work, we discover and heal them.

 

Stage Three-Thriving and building a new life. At this stage of our work, we focus on helping you fully reconnect with yourself and others. You build healthy, supportive, enjoyable relationships and take steps to repair some of the old ones. Your new relationships are built on new models of yourself and other people.

 

“Until you know what you are doing, you can’t do what you want”. Moshe Feldenkrais  

Anger Management Counseling Approaches:

Eclectic Counseling Style: One size doesn’t fit all. My work has its roots in the following therapeutic traditions:

Customized Counseling Approaches Based on Your Needs and Goals. My extensive training and wide range of experience allows me to provide a customized solution for your particular relationship problems and concerns. When it comes to therapy, different people find different things helpful. This means that your input and feedback on our work is not only helpful, but necessary. As we work together, we will both learn more about you and what approaches seem to be most effective for you.

 

My devotion to helping people grow and change has led me to incorporate develop a range of appoaches. There are several counseling approaches we might take or use together…

 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

(CBT) focuses on how your thoughts, beliefs and actions affect your emotions and your relationships.  Sometimes it is not so much an event, but your interpretation of it that effects you deeply. If you are the type of person who loves homework outside our counseling sessions, this may be a great option for you. For more info on CBT, click here. Are you adding another page for each approach?

 

E.M.D.R.

One of the most heavily researched of all psychotherapeutic approaches, E.M.D.R. is effective at reducing the lasting effects of traumatic events. Originally developed as a treatment for trauma survivors, it has been shown to be quite effective at resolving a range of emotional reactions, large or small. For more info on E.M.D.R.,click here.

 

Clinical Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy

Research has taught us that the addition of hypnosis substantially enhances the efficacy of any psychotherapy.   Many clients report that hypnotherapy can improve attitude, allow greater ease in changing your behavior, and help calm your emotions. Positive results often commonly occur faster and last longer.  For more info on hypnosis click here.

 

Mindfulness and Attachment Based Counseling Approaches.

Over the last decade, research in psychology and neurobiology has advanced our understanding about the brain, how it functions, and how it influences our relationships.  My work with clients always incorporates the latest scientific findings about how people change and what works best in therapy.  Much of what we’ll do is designed to help expand your awareness of thoughts, feelings and body sensations. This process will ultimately help you solve your problems and live a happier fuller life. Attention to all these levels of being will help you to  change and grow more quickly and permanently.

Mindfulness Based Somatically Oriented Approaches

“Until you know what you are doing, you can’t do what you want”. Moshe Feldenkrais

We are more than our “thinking brains” and psychotherapy is most effective when it directly addresses the emotional brain and the body-mind. Contemporary neuroscience research has taught us the importance of including mindful awareness of the body as way to powerfully enhance psychotherapy.

By adding directed mindful study of your emotions, body movements and sensations psychotherapy takes on a more rich, deep and effective dimension. These methods help you discover “what” your doing and “how” your doing it. That makes change easier.

Because trauma typically shows up as body reactions and body symptoms, these techniques are well suited to clients who have trauma histories or who struggle with anxiety, anger or depression.

Hakomi and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy combine the wisdom of the body with the power of directed mindfulness. This fosters emotional growth and change. There is a story that the body is telling us, these methods teach us how to listen.

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy work combines traditional talking therapy techniques with body-centered interventions that directly address the neurobiological effects of trauma. By using the narrative to evoke trauma-related bodily experience and making that the primary entry point in therapy, we attend first to how the body has “remembered” the trauma

Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy

We are are multifaceted beings. Our common everyday expressions acknowledge the reality that we are not unidimensional. For example, we might say “part of me is so mad that it want’s to end this relationship, but another part of me is scared” or “Part of me is very creative and another part is very practical”. Healing and growth occur through resolving inner conflict between different sides of us. The internal family systems approach help you to find out what different parts of you are up to and why.

Journalling– Writing helps to ‘externalize’ pain, and clarify thoughts, and emotions.  Journaling can help you “play detective” and learn how and why you do what you do. This helps your reactions to become more understandable and facilitates concrete change.