Has Your ADHD Thrown Your Life Off Track?

Have symptoms of your ADHD caused issues with your career and family? Poor planning, disorganization, jumping around stresses you out. Or worse, a sense of panic or fear creeps over you when it’s time to fulfill school or work obligations. Maybe juggling all your demands gets overwhelming. And you start feeling like some part of your life is about to spiral out of control. ADHD counseling might be just what you need.

ADHD Counseling

Michael G. Quirke, M.F.T.

ADHD symptoms can make you feel like you are not living up to your potential. Maybe you spend too much time focused on distractions. Your mind wanders. You squander your time, maybe spend hours researching one subject, only to panic when you realize there was another, more important project you were supposed to be working on.

Alternatively, you may deal with uncontrollable emotional outbursts. Do you blurt things in anger at inappropriate times? React inappropriately? Even though you go back to normal quite quickly, you find that those around you are bothered.

Your ADHD may even be taking a toll on your relationship. You tune out. Your mind wanders. You forget things. These erode the love and friendship.

Does your inattentiveness make it difficult for you to focus on your partner’s concerns, making them feel unwanted? Important things slip your mind. Tasks that seem so easy for others, get bungled, or overlooked. Feelings get hurt.

If you have ADHD symptoms, it’s likely that you find it difficult to complete simple household activities. This frustrates both your partner and yourself. And, you might find yourself sneaking around out of embarrassment about your ADHD symptoms. It’s the tendency to cover up the truth- out of embarrassment- which wears relationship trust thin.

ADHD symptoms breed frustration and fatigue. Likely, by this point, you just want to regain control of your life, feel good about yourself, and manage these everyday tasks that others seem to find so simple.

Managing ADHD Is Difficult For Many Individuals

ADHD is a very common issue—in fact, 4% of adults deal with ADHD.

Many people diagnosed with ADHD as a child continue to experience symptoms as an adult. Sometimes, this is because they have never gotten the right ADHD counseling. ADHD in adults in some ways can be more frustrating than struggling with ADHD as a child. For example, you may have learned coping mechanisms that are no longer useful in the adult world.  

Silent ADHD. One of the biggest problems with ADHD is when it goes unnoticed. Perhaps you haven’t been diagnosed with anything or you’ve been misdiagnosed in the past. It typical that people with ADHD face issues with depression and anxiety. In fact, ADHD often does not come alone. This can leave you with a number of behaviors that are difficult to control with no idea what to do about them.

Untreated or undiagnosed ADHD can lead to problems in your relationships and your career. Thankfully, with the right treatment, you can gain control over your ADHD and reclaim your life.

ADHD Counseling Can Change Your Life And Help You Live Up To Your Potential

Many times people understate the value of therapy in treating ADHD. Some may know they have ADHD but never go to counseling. Others may have only tried medication.  In the long run, this can lead to a lot of problems regulating your behavior.

Some people are skeptical of therapy because they’ve tried it in the past and it hasn’t worked. But ADHD counseling can be incredibly helpful when applied correctly. That’s why I will always tailor my sessions to fit you. I will typically give you assignments throughout the week, and we’ll start sessions by checking their progression. My program is action-oriented, designed to get results quickly and efficiently.

When it comes to ADHD counseling, I use a variety of modalities depending on what the patient wants or needs. For example, neurofeedback therapy has been incredibly helpful for some of my clients. Their mental focus increased and they feel calmer. Usually I also give them practical tools they can practice and apply. These helps retrain their brain.

Something unique I offer is a 5 to 10-minute feedback opportunity at the end of each session. During this time I’ll ask you to rate how helpful the session was, usually on a scale from 1 to 10. Then we’ll talk about ways to make the next ADHD counseling session better so you can get the most out of your therapy.

Dealing with ADHD symptoms in the adult world can be a frustrating ordeal. However, witnessing my clients prevail over their ADHD symptoms has been an inspiration and a joy. Some of the most rewarding changes have been reported both from clients and the people that know them.  

Remember, you are not your nervous system—you can overcome the challenges your ADHD poses and reclaim your life.

You may still have questions about ADHD counseling…

I don’t have time for therapy. My other responsibilities are more important.

While I wouldn’t downplay these other responsibilities, I would argue that therapy matches them in importance. There is nothing more foundational to your life than being able to become calm and focused when you need to. ADHD therapy provides those tools so that you can be successful in all areas of your life, including whatever other responsibilities you might have.  ADHD commonly interferes with the ability to prioritize what’s important. It would be a shame if you let it convince you that therapy isn’t so important.

I’m worried you’ll tell me I need ADHD medication.

I try to avoid telling people what they should or should not do when it comes to medication. We are all individuals. It’s important to weigh the cost and benefits of taking any psychiatric drug. ADHD counseling can be extremely effective, and not everyone needs or wants them.  

Psychiatric medication for ADHD can be helpful for some people and not for others. I will, however, encourage you to educate yourself fully about their advantages and disadvantages so that you can make an informed choice on whether or not you’d like to pursue that route.

I don’t think therapy can help me.

Therapy can be an amazing resource if done properly. Having someone to guide you can help you figure out tools and strategies to avoid the typical pitfalls of ADHD and to find shortcuts to your goals.

But Maybe You Still Aren’t Sure

If you’re still on the fence about whether or not to start ADHD counseling, ask yourself the following questions:

    • Has your ADHD taken over your life to the point that it’s affected your relationship or career?
  • Are you willing to invest the time and money needed for therapy?
    • Do you welcome gentle, effective guidance and support?
  • Are you able to commit to self-growth and practice on your own?

I ask that you consider these questions carefully—therapy is an intensive process and should be pursued only if you know you will be able to commit to it. If you’re interested, please reach out to me using my contact form, describe how ADHD has been affecting you, and list some times during the business day when I would be able to contact you.

ADHD can be overwhelming for some people, especially if they don’t know what they’re dealing with. With the right help, however, you can move forward into a better, more  focused and controlled life.

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